Post # 1
I am worried my wedding reception is doomed to be boring. Any advice to help that not be the caes would be appreciated!
There will be about 40 guests. I wanted it to be like a big family dinner, but unfortunately that means 80% of guests are 50+ auntsm, uncles etc. The only people under this age group are me, Fiance, 2 bridesmaids, 2 groomsmen, Bridesmaid or Best Man +1, cousin, and my nephews who are still children.
I am having a bar tab so that those who want to drink (mainly the grooms side because mine prefer soft drinks..eh) can let loose. I hired a 3 piece band to create some energy in the room, but their reportoire is a mix of popular music from the 2000s and now. I had tried to get a band that plays older or jazz music my guests could appreciate (a lot of them like more formal waltz, salsa etc type music) but those bands were too expensive. We can’t play lawn games because the space is indoors and quite small.
WHAT TO DO!! Should i even bother renting a dance floor or tryng to get the dancing started?
Post # 2
A whole bunch of us 50+ folks had a great time dancing at my niece’s wedding. Her DJ did a great mix of oldies, structured dances like a conga line, etc…
It would help, I think, if you could get your band to do a few “oldies”, meaning from the Beatles or something.
Post # 3
Ours was a lot like a family bbq. People danced about a half hour and it rained so outdoor games weren’t useable. We had a good time anyway, just hanging around and chatting. People enjoyed attending a wedding with a different vibe than is typical. Don’t worry!
Post # 4
shadows9x : I’m over 50 and will dance to anything. LOL
Post # 5
I’m pretty sure people over 50 enjoy dancing. If you want a dance floor than get a dance floor.
Post # 6
shadows9x : 50 is the new 36 & 4 months. I wouldn’t sweat it.
Post # 7
Honestly? I think it truly comes down to the general type of personalities in attendance. I was married at 39, and the average age of my 60 or so guests was probably 55ish, and, we partied it up–though maybe old-school ish! I was VERY particular with my song list, and catered extremely closely to what I knew they’d enjoy. I think if you can anticipate the guests’ preferences, you can create an atmosphere that will entice some more active atmosphere.
Post # 8
Most weddings I’ve been to the older crowd did not dance. The wedding that had the most older crowd dancing played oldies music from the 50s/60s. You don’t need a band, you can have a playlist on Spotify and rent speakers.
Post # 9
Just for a little perspective, these guests are in their 50’s, not their 90’s. They were born anywhere between 1958 and 1967, right?
The mantra in the late 60’s and 70’s was ‘sex, drugs, and rock & roll’. Wild times, getting drunk, stoned, or otherwise wasted is nothing new.
It won’t be boring.
Post # 10
shadows9x : what kind of music do you think 50 plus people like? We grew up with Aerosmith, Black Sabbath, Metallica etc. Not Ragtime.
Post # 11
DanaWeddingGuest : Exactly. Maybe try a little bit harder rock on your playlist than you would ordinarily dance to
Post # 12
wow.I think your title is a bit dramatic, if not offensive.
Post # 13
My wedding was 40 people and average age was also over 50. I worried a little too but I shouldnt have, only the guests 70+ left early and some of the biggest drinkers were the 50+. My aunts drank more than anyone at my wedding and they were on the dancefloor all night. Dont worry about it. Include a mix of music including modern music. Remember that the majority of 50-60 years olds will have been in their 20s in the 80s.
Post # 14
nycsa : “what kind of music do you think 50 plus people like? We grew up with Aerosmith, Black Sabbath, Metallica etc. Not Ragtime.”
True. Now I don’t believe that people necessarily only like the music that was popular when they grew up but people born in the 1960s probably had the bands that nycsa mentions and music such as Madonna, Depeche Mode, Bowie, U2, Eurythmics, Michael Jackson etc around when they were young
Post # 15
I have been to events where 50+ year olds have taken over and turned a boring event into a fun filled evening. You seem to forget the 50+ generation were part of the eras of change and once being wild and out there.
My Future in laws love to dance to anything. I know a lot of them like today’s music. If you are that worried hire a DJ and give them a list of songs from the 60s/70s/80s.
Just because they are “old” doesn’t mean they don’t know how to have a great time.