Help! Average age at reception is 50+. Is it doomed to be boring?

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

A whole bunch of us 50+ folks had a great time dancing at my niece’s wedding. Her DJ did a great mix of oldies, structured dances like a conga line, etc… 

It would help, I think, if you could get your band to do a few “oldies”, meaning from the Beatles or something. 

 

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Ours was a lot like a family bbq. People danced about a half hour and it rained so outdoor games weren’t useable. We had a good time anyway, just hanging around and chatting. People enjoyed attending a wedding with a different vibe than is typical.  Don’t worry!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

shadows9x :   I’m over 50 and will dance to anything.  LOL   

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I’m pretty sure people over 50 enjoy dancing. If you want a dance floor than get a dance floor.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

shadows9x :  50 is the new 36 & 4 months. I wouldn’t sweat it. 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Honestly?  I think it truly comes down to the general type of personalities in attendance.  I was married at 39, and the average age of my 60 or so guests was probably 55ish, and, we partied it up–though maybe old-school ish!   I was VERY particular with my song list, and catered extremely closely to what I knew they’d enjoy.  I think if you can anticipate the guests’ preferences, you can create an atmosphere that will entice some more active atmosphere.  

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

Most weddings I’ve been to the older crowd did not dance. The wedding that had the most older crowd dancing played oldies music from the 50s/60s. You don’t need a band, you can have a playlist on Spotify and rent speakers.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

Just for a little perspective, these guests are in their 50’s, not their 90’s. They were born anywhere between 1958 and 1967, right?

The mantra in the late 60’s and 70’s was ‘sex, drugs, and rock & roll’. Wild times, getting drunk, stoned, or otherwise wasted is nothing new. 

It won’t be boring.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

shadows9x :  what kind of music do you think 50 plus people like? We grew up with Aerosmith, Black Sabbath, Metallica etc. Not Ragtime. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

DanaWeddingGuest :  Exactly. Maybe try a little bit harder rock on your playlist than you would ordinarily dance to

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

wow.I think your title is a bit dramatic, if not offensive.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

My wedding was 40 people and average age was also over 50. I worried a little too but I shouldnt have, only the guests 70+ left early and some of the biggest drinkers were the 50+. My aunts drank more than anyone at my wedding and they were on the dancefloor all night. Dont worry about it. Include a mix of music including modern music. Remember that the majority of 50-60 years olds will have been in their 20s in the 80s.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

nycsa :  “what kind of music do you think 50 plus people like? We grew up with Aerosmith, Black Sabbath, Metallica etc. Not Ragtime.”

True. Now I don’t believe that people necessarily only like the music that was popular when they grew up but people born in the 1960s probably had the bands that nycsa mentions and music such as Madonna, Depeche Mode, Bowie, U2, Eurythmics, Michael Jackson etc around when they were young

Post # 15
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Helper bee

I have been to events where 50+ year olds have taken over and turned a boring event into a fun filled evening.    You seem to forget the 50+ generation were part of the eras of change and once being wild and out there.

My Future in laws love to dance to anything.   I know a lot of them like today’s music.    If you are that worried hire a DJ and give them a list of songs from the 60s/70s/80s.  

Just because they are “old” doesn’t mean they don’t know how to have a great time.   

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