(Closed) HELP! bad news….now what?

posted 8 years ago in September 2011
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Well, what’s more important to you, the church or the date?  If the date is more important, then there are lots and lots of other options.  If the church is more important, then give up the date.  The cuteness of 9-10-11 may wear off anyhow, at some point.  It may not, but it’s something to think about!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I agree with jmc…you need to decide what is most important to you…the date or the church…personally if there was a church I really wanted I would change the date…

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i agree with jmc, we picked our date by asking our venue and rabbi when would be good for them. that way, we knew we’d get who we wanted. if you really want your date, i’d try going to the local boards and do a post there, maybe some girls here will be able to help you out.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m not sure if you typically go to that one church, but as a warning, many churches are not interested in marrying people who are not regular attenders or active members.  Just a thought as you decide what to do.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Your relationship with your church is forever, but the date will only be cute for one day (your anniversary will be 9/10/12, 9/10/15 etc) so I would keep the church and change the date. We had to go with our 4th choice of dates to get all our vendors available on the same day 🙁

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I understand wanting to have a cool date (my BFF has chosen your date as well), but as PP said–you need to decide what’s most important to you.  The date or the church.  Because it seems at this point that you really can’t have both.  If you choose the date, you can look into non-religious venues, and ask if a pastor from your church can perform the ceremony at that location.  Good luck!

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Whenever I face one of these dilemmas, focusing on the big picture always helps.  Your getting married to the person you love, in the end, the date, the church, the venue, it really doesn’t matter at all.  I picked my the first wedding dress I tried on, it was beautiful but I am confident that whatever I wear, my Fiance will love me in it.  This really helped to deflate the hype over the dress.  I personally, am focusing more on the vision for my day, therefore I would definitely pick venues over date.  You don’t want to settle on a second choice for something like a date.  I too am a 9/10/11 and am visiting my first choice venue tomorrow…I have no qualms giving up this date if I can’t get the venue.  As fo the church, I too was tied to one in particular (beautiful Notre-Dame in Old Montreal) which requires over a year to book.  My Fiance is really stressed at the hospital working right now and I don’t want to stress him with this booking, so I just gave it up.  God is in every church, your marriage will have the same meaning no matter which one you pick.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I guess I should change the date in my profile, I am not a sept 2011 bride!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Sorry guys, NOW a sept bride…

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i am a 9.10.11 bride and also agree with the PP, to figure out which is more impt to you (date or church) I actually would recommend that you speak to the church because oftentimes you can find out if there is another time for the ceremony…for instance, on a Saturday, many churches have two ceremony times. In this case, it could definitely work.

I pushed my ceremony time earlier so that I could get to my reception hall and still have time for pictures…it was impt to me that i had the church i wanted (whcih is farther from the reception site.)

GOOD LUCK! 🙂

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Is there anyway that you can work with the other couple that booked the church and schedule ceremonies in the same day?  Maybe have one in the early afternoon and one in the late afternoon?  You could potentially save a bundle on ceremony decor, too! 

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