Post # 1
So i got my engagement pictures back my wedding is in a month and a half and i am paying a lot for them. I almost hate of them and i don’t know what to do. I’m not good with speaking my mind to people cause i am pushed over a lot of the time. I am also afraid they will not give me good pictures on my wedding day.
What do i do.
They didn’t give me any direction as to long gate my neck or to sit up straight they told us how to pose but i am not the photographer they should have told me to sit up straight.
I cried all day yesterday when i got them and i know i am critical on myself but i really don’t like them. My friends tell me that i need to tell them and that i need to tell them that i need some kind of assurance that the quality of my wedding pictures will be better.
I need some advice. thank you!
Post # 3
Why not tell the photographer that you need them to give more guidance with posing? If the only problems you have with the picture are your own posing, and not the technical side or artistic quality, that is mostly on you. You really need to be able to stand up for yourself (in so MANY other parts of your life too) and tell them what you need from them. Photographers, like spouses, friends, coworkers, etc can not read your mind or know what your insecurities are. You are responsible for researching, talking to them, thinking about what poses you want as well.
Post # 4
Can we see a couple examples?
It’s not really the photographers job to tell you how to pose or to elongate you neck, but it sucks you’re not happy with your photos!
Post # 5
I’ll post this everywhere: practice in front of a mirror. Look at the photos you don’t like and figure out what body poses would give you the look you DO desire.
Do you tilt your head down when you pose for photos? Try putting your chin level to the ground instead. That will likely help the neck issue. I myself have to consciously widen my right eye for photos or else it ends up looking squinty compared to my left.
It can be really hard to keep in mind posture and smile and all sorts of things during photos; it’s not a natural ability.
Ultimately, you are responsible for your own body. The photog can only do so much.
Post # 6
Yes, I do tilt my head down so it makes me look like i have a double chin. I have a long neck. I just spoke with another photographer who is my friend but she couldn’t do my wedding and she said. She always tells the couple what to do. So i don’t know if you all are correct.
We are paying them to get the best shots. They are the professional and we hired them.
Post # 7
@Belle2Be: And i can’t post any because my Fiance is in all of them, and i am not allowed to post anything with him in it, because of his job.
Post # 8
@HoneyBee1811: You can black him out in Photobucket 🙂
A photographer can only get what the client gives him. He’s not going to tell you every shot, stick your chin out, don’t slouch, shoulders back, etc. Like Lila said, that’s stuff you need to practice in the mirror.
Post # 9
Yeah, if something like that jumps out at me, I may say something to the bride, but it really is a double edged sword. Some brides would be easily offended if you told them to stop slouching or elongate their necks or whatever, because that could easily be perceived as telling them “hey, your posture is bad and your neck is too short.” Like I said, I only mention something if it REALLY jumps out at me and if it’s not too personal. For example, if there is a stain on her dress or too much hair in her eyes/face. SOMETIMES I’ll tell a bride to turn a little more to one side to slim them out a bit, but I can do that without telling them WHY I’m telling them to do that.
Post # 10
You might be indeed too critical, too bad you can’t post some photos.
Photographer should be able to take flattering images of you, but personally, i don’t do a lot of posed photos, my style is more “free”, but when i do pose, i do pay attention and will tell my client if something isn’t quiet right.
If you were in a studio setting, then it’s a totally different situation.
You will need to speak with your photographers and tell them exactly what you said here. There is nothing to be afraid of, don’t be ashamed of asking questions, I’m sure they will listen to your concerns.
Let us know how it went.
Post # 11
I’m guessing if you’re crying over photos you’re being far too critical. Discomfort reads very clearly on film, but that’s why people do engagement shoots. On your wedding day you’ll be more comfortable and can ask for direction. Point out what you don’t like to your photographer and ask them what you can do during the wedding to correct what you don’t like.