(Closed) help bees, fi is about to go head to head with wedding planner

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

How far are you into this process? Have you already paid her anything? Have you had her booked for a long time? I am not sure if that is a high cost or not, as I don’t know much about wedding planning, but that is a cost that should have been disclosed to you when you originally hired this woman. You didn’t agree to that price, and she shouldn’t change it half-way through. Then again, maybe this is common practice, I just personally think it’s shady business dealing

Post # 4
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2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

How much are you already paying for the main wedding coordinator? $750 for 1 extra person seems a bit steep to me on top of whatever you’re already paying her – we paid $1100 for a DOC and her assistant for the entire day and it seemed about middle of the road for our area for those services. But of course I don’t know the norm for your area or anything about your wedding! But I do feel like she should have known the amount of work involved for your wedding from the beginning and shouldn’t be bringing this up so close to the day.

Post # 6
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1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Can you find a friend or family member (or friend of a friend) to volunteer to help the coordinator out? She probably just needs someone to be onsite at the reception venue during the ceremony to make sure set-up is going properly.

Post # 7
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839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I can understand why she might need to make some changes since your wedding has changed, but I cannot see how just adding one more location would cost her an extra $750 worth or work. If she just needs another hand to help transport things or something, surely someone would volunteer to do that.

Post # 8
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3152 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@newname_99:  what about trying to negotiate? say maybe $300 for a second person. seriously.

Post # 9
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1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

No way would she get more money out of me.Ask her what she will need help with specifically and find someone to help her.You could hire a college student for 100 bucks or less.I doubt that she is paying an assistant 750 dollars for one days worth of work.good luck!

Post # 10
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3307 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Absolutely unreasonable. I wouldn’t agree to it if I were you. When I was a wedding planner, I sometimes hired an assistant a few weeks out from the wedding, but I paid her $20/hr or less and I only used her to help out on the day of. I can’t say that it would have worked if my bride offered to have a cousin help out (because planners have a style and someone who doesn’t work for you may not be so easy to take orders from a stranger who is not paying them). Not that I’m rude or hard to work with, but there isn’t always time for please and thank you when there’s rain clouds over the outdoor ceremony space and I need to coach my staff through a last minute solution.

Also, please do NOT let your Fiance email her! lol. That’ll just make everything worse

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@newname_99:  I think you should say that your wedding budget is already set and that you won’t be able to increase her fee by $750 (or at all). Then you ask if there is anything else you can do to help? You can offer to provide a volunteer or two and let her decide whether she thinks that will work.  Regardless, your contract is already signed (and even if it weren’t, you have already paid a portion of her fee so there is consideration AND reliance at this point–I’m a lawyer now, lol) so you can let her know that whether you are able to come to an agreement about this extra assistant fee, that you absolutely expect that she will provide each and every service already outlined in the contract for the price upon which you initially agreed.  

I know you said you aren’t confrontational, so you may find this next part to be a bit much, but you could also throw in that if she feels that she is unable to execute your planning/coordination effectively that you woould appreciate if she let you know so that you can look to hire someone else and that of course…you will need a refund of the amount you have already paid.

Post # 14
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1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Overjoyed:  +1 agree

I think that is way too much for an unexpected last minute fee.  

Post # 16
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255 posts
Helper bee

@newname_99:  Excuse me what?! I am a wedding planner and i would NEVER tell a client that after 8 months of planning your wedding I think I’m going to need to hire an assistant.

To be honest this is just a good old fashioned squeeze! Meaning she’s going to squeeze every last drop of money out that she can…oh and she will expect a tip for her hard work.  I’m sorry this is harsh but please-please make sure you are very clear with her and use your contract as leverage..it doesn’t just protect the planner…it protects you too.

 

Good luck!

Pheebes

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