Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2021 - Goshen, NY
I got my dress back from the seamstress who insisted she “only does one fitting” for her brides. I am big breasted, so to give some support and look less saggy, she originally she added another cup on top of the existing one, and tightened the straps.
At my fitting, we determined that we were going to remove the second cups because it was literally cutting my boobs in half and that the tightened straps would be enough.
A note here that I have to tighten my straps on EVERYTHING. I don’t know if I have lower shoulders or something, but this is not a new issue.
So the problem is, I guess they’re too tight now? In just the 15 minutes I had the dress on, I had deep red marks on my shoulders. The seamstress said that it’s because of the sequins, but I think that the heavy dress is trying to hold itself up with the thin straps. When I originally tried it on, and prior to alterations, the straps weren’t uncomfortable at all, but obviously needed to be tightened (also when I picked the dress they clipped the straps tighter and that didn’t make the dress uncomfortable).
The only thing the seamstress could suggest is for us to go to Joanne’s fabric and get some foam to put under the strap. But they’re very, very thin, so not only is whatever it is going to show, we don’t even know if that will help or if it will make it more uncomfortable because now the shorter straps are raised higher. She also said that because of the sequins/beading, she can’t sew anything under them.
I am at a loss of what to do. My wedding is in 3 weeks, I live 3 hours south from the seamstress, and if my shoulders were so red 15 minutes in, I can’t imagine them all day plus the pain and irritation.
Here is a picture of my clipped dress when I chose it: Front and Back.
Here is a picture when we picked up my dress at the bridal shop.
Here is a picture at the final fitting. A note that she quickly took out one cup to see if that would look better, so my boobs look kinda lopsided here as the other still had two cups.
Here is a zoomed in picture of my shoulder. It’s hard to tell because of the veil, but I can still see the redness even through the veil.
Here is a picture of the altered dress hanging at my mom’s.
Post # 2
I don’t know if this will work, but my thought is you shouldn’t be depending on the straps for supporting your breasts because they are so thin in design. Try one of the sticky backless bras and even if it’s not 100% support since you still have the cups, if that would help take some of the weight off.
Double-sided tape the sides going up to the straps to your chest and see if that helps to spread the pressure so it’s not on just those two points. The dress doesn’t look like it has boning or any kind of inside support, but adding something may help it stay closer to your body so it’s not dragging all the way down (so the weight on your shoulders just the upper part).
I’d seek a second opinion and see if another seamstress can offer a solution. Also, I think you look lovely and that dress is a dream come true! But if you are in the process or planning on losing any weight, or at a particular time in your cycle, I know my boobs are frequently the first thing to shrink or grow in size. I wouldn’t do it if you’re comfortable, just if as a possible reason to wait and see if it fits better if you’re not in a hurry.
Post # 3
I agree with the above bee and think the weight of your bust is putting to much strain on the straps. If a sticky backless bra isn’t a possibility could you look at tapping your bust so that it is supporting itself and not putting as much weight on the straps of your dress.
Post # 4
I agree – those straps look so thin, I don’t think they are meant to be providing any support, but it doesn’t look like the rest of the dress has much built in support either. Some form of support under the dress will put less pressure on the straps.
Post # 5
Agreed with everyone else. Tape your boobs up. The dress itself shouldn’t be supporting them.
Post # 6
I agree with the other posters here that anything that supports your breasts better should ease the strain on the shoulder straps but if all measures still result in that “cutting in” to your shoulder flesh then I think you have to look at adding some extra fabric into the shoulder straps. I’d suggest you add from the base of the straps at the back and cover the addition with a few wisps of lace or some pearls or embellishment. Comfort is more important than aesthetics and you want to be able to enjoy your day. The veil will hide the back of your dress anyway.
I would get the alterations done by someone closer to home but I would let the original one know that her work has to be revised and ask if she can make a financial contribution to the resolution of the problem.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2021 - Mackinac Island, MI
To be honest, I think your boobs look best in the first picture before alterations. With your straps so night all I see is your cleavage, when they’re loose I can see how beautiful the dress is. I wouldn’t be so worried about hoisting them up so much, a sticky bra like other bees suggested could work. I’d definitely ask for the straps to be taken out. You can’t wear a painful dress all night, it’s all you’ll think about!
Post # 8
First off what a lovely dress and you look so happy and beautiful in it!
That does look like it would be painful though and I’d worry about the strap snapping after a long day filled with lots of movement such as hugging and dancing. Maybe try emailing seamstresses near you with pictures of the dress and see if anyone can come up with fix. If you can’t find a solution to the strap issue I suggest having a back up outfit at the venue to change into after the ceremony just in case, maybe a cute white dress or jumpsuit from a department store or Lulus.
Good luck to you!
Post # 9
I agree. It looks like the straps were shortened too much, pulling your breasts up to make extra cleavage and losing the lovely feel of the top of the dress. I think letting the straps out would be best. Good luck!
Post # 10
Is the dress hanging by the straps in the last picture? If so, don’t be surprised if they stretch out a bit over the next few weeks. There should be loops in the dress to hang the dress from so that doesn’t happen.
Post # 11
I agree with PP.
On another note, I had a clear soft mesh seen to my straps as I had the same thing, but they were removable so the weight of the dress wasn’t relying on them