- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2016
I know that a lot of people have blended families these days, but mine is extra blended. I want to have a fairly traditional wedding, but it is proving difficult to figure out some of the traditions with so many people to consider.
Here’s my story:
My mom and dad had me and got divorced.
Mom remarried to stepdad when I was 3; had three more kids.
Dad remarried to stepmom when I was 6; had two more kids.
Dad and stepmom divorced when I was 16.
Dad got girlfriend pregnant and had another kid.
Mom and stepdad divorced when I was 21.
Mom has a new boyfriend. Dad has a new girlfriend (not baby-mama…). Stepmom has a new boyfriend. Stepdad is single.
Dad and stepdad HATE each other.
Mom and stepmom get along GREAT.
Mom and Dad dislike each other…. Mom and stepdad are strained, Dad and stepmom are strained.
Dad and I had a falling out when I was 16, didn’t speak for 2 years.
Stepdad and I are strained.
Great relationships between myself and my Mom and my stepmom.
With all of these familial ties and extra siblings, of course it wasn’t going to be difficult enough to fit all the kids in the wedding party and figure out the seating chart… Nope. Now I have to figure out the walking down the aisle, father/daughter dance, and how to honor them each.
We took parents’ names off of the invite entirely, for space-sake. My Mom is walking me down the aisle because she has always been there for me. Neither my Dad nor Stepdad have been consistently.
That being said, they have been there for me in certain times and I do want them to have a moment. But how do I do a father/daughter dance? I can’t have stepdad cut in to Dad’s dance because they dislike each other and honestly I don’t want to have to stand between the glares.
With my Mom walking me down the aisle, and a dance with each father figure, that leaves my stepmom to honor. What can I do to let her have a moment?
I appreciate any advice!!!