(Closed) HELP. Botched ceremony thanks to horrible JOP. What would you do?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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3332 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’d probably just write an honest review and leave it at that. It’s over, there isn’t much you can do, but I’d probably still mention it. Maybe other people had bad experiences with him but felt weird leaving a less than stellar review because of all the rest? Who knows.

 Sorry he sucked, but congrats on getting married!

Post # 3
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1299 posts
Bumble bee

farmfreshjoy :  While I don’t think you’re being ridiculous, I don’t think reaching out to the JOP is going to do anything.  I too would be pretty disappointed.

I really like the idea of the “do over” in this case, in private, where you can both recite your vows the way they were meant to sound.

I usually don’t write reviews but in this case I would be tempted to since you relied so heavily on other reviews when you chose him.  I wouldn’t be surprised though if it’s never printed.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Unlike a pp, I would talk to him. I believe that in almost all cases, it is better to start directly with the person involved. I think it’s a little unrealistic to expect that he would have memorized your vows, but he should have been able to read them clearly, provided they were printed and not in someone’s terrible handwriting.

Call him. Ask how he is doing. Tell him you were disappointed and concerned about his health when he was unable to read your vows correctly.

 

Post # 6
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4505 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Leave an honest review and then let it go. Or you guys can say your vows to each other in private — I wouldn’t involve a family friend.

Post # 7
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5886 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’d probably write him and email expressing your disapointment and asking him what happened.  If you find out that he did have some sort of major thing going on, it may put your mind at easel.  GIven that long history of good reviews it is kind of the only thing that makes sense.

Post # 9
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1581 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - Ocean front

Please tell me this Justice of the Peace isn’t from MASS?

My Justice of the Peace also came with raving reviews…..yikes! :×/

Post # 10
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5886 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

farmfreshjoy :  If it makes you feel any better, I went to a wedding one time where the cermeony was very religious.  Jesus this, Jesus that the whole time.  The weird thing was that the couple was definetly athiest.   They litterally talked about making Jesus the center of their marriage in their VOWS.  These people are NOT christian or religoius in any way.

The friends were all wispering to each other wondering if that was to apease grandma or something.  Turns out…nope.  Officiant just got confused and did the wrong ceremony.

 

Post # 12
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114 posts
Blushing bee

Nothing wrong with an unofficial redo! Have a friend sit with you in your back yard to go over the ceremony the way you want, and then go out to dinner to celebrate your beautiful words. As for the officiant, definitely leave an honest review so that other people don’t have the same disappointment. 

Post # 14
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111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’d leave an honest review and leave it at that. I too was married last saturday. And amid last minute venue change/husband and his family not knowing what the flip to stand/do/act at a wedding/mil I have some serious issues with our wedding. But it’s over, we’re married and happy. And I’ll have to get over it sometime soon. Sadly we can’t control the past. (But you know we’ll be the first ones in line to use a time-travel machine if they ever find out how to make one 😉 ) Best wishes to you 🙂

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