(Closed) Help! Boyfriend and I got in big fight the day he bought my engagement ring!

posted 8 years ago in Proposals
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Guys tend to have a short memory. If you have already apologized i wouldn’t being this up again so you can help speed its way down memory lane.

 

Just make sure you are really excited and happy about everything else in the next few weeks and then he’ll just remember the overall mood, not this incident.

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

ahhh try not to worry about it. my Fiance and i argued the day he ordered my ring and pretty much the whole week before he proposed. i think the stress and anxiety that they (and we!) are going through just makes it happen.  it didn’t ruin the proposal or engagement. trust me, after you are engaged you will totally forget about the arguments except to console other worried waiters. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 19
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Busy bee

You’ll be fine. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

The day is tainted, but you know, arguments happen. The fact that you don’t give up on each other because of an argument is what’s important. You have not ruined your engagement, you will fight when you’re engaged, and when you’re married.

I doubt he will associate the ring with your fight, especially because that’s not what you were fighting about. Nothing has been ruined, it’s an argument just like the ones you’ve had in the past and will have in the future. Just go talk to him and make up.

Post # 21
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It’s totally fine. We got into a HUGE fight the day we got engaged. And now we are married and haven’t gotten into one fight sense haha. Your relationship is growing, and with that come growing pains. I promise it’s going to be ok!  It just sucks in the meantime.

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

If one fight can break off the engagement then it wasn’t a strong one!! My Fiance have been constantly fighting and trying to learn to get along in living together. It’s been a really uphill battle as we’re both really bullheaded. Slowly things have improved so much and we’re growing closer and closer for it. Try to use the aftermath of arguments as relationship building. Make sure everyone gets to speak honestly about their feelings or else they’ll come up later (aka, that time you mention 50 things that bother you about SO in an argument). Good luck ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 23
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Ehhhhh, arguments happen and you learn from them. Take this as a lesson and don’t let your bad day get in the way of surprise moments in your life. He was sharing a jokingly moment with you and naturally you just wanted to let your frustrations out. I wouldn’t worry too much, I don’t think he would change his mind over a silly argument, if he does THAT’S over-reacting. 

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

my Fiance & I got in a big fight 2 weeks before he proposed because I thought he would of asked me by then and I was getting that whole “why buy the cow if the milk’s free” fear and I laid into him. The argument ended with him saying “listen lady, I was going to buy the ring next week” and hanging up.

I really had to evaluate a lot of things about myself & my fears after that fight but it didn’t ruin the proposal which came 2 weeks later one bit and it won’t ruin yours either.

Post # 25
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I dont think you ruined your engagement, just take it as a lesson though.Don’t pick fights, especially if you knew you were in the wrong and especially if you knew he wasn’t in the wrong. He kept it from you not to lie but because she wasnt a big deal and it wasnt worth explaining or making you have doubts or jealousy.

I have had that happen before. Where we got a new blonde co-worker just out of college and I hadnt said more than 5 words to her in the few weeks she had been working and i am in a small office of about 20 people. But my then-girlfriend surprised me after work to take me to dinner and saw her leaving the office and questioned who that was. It wasn’t a big deal and I assured her i didnt find her attractive or anything and i really hadnt even spoken to her. But I can probably say if I had just bought the ring and she gave me crap about this girl who didnt mean anything, I would get angry as well. 

The only potential thing you could ruined is if it made him have second thoughts like “I am about to marry this girl and she still doesnt trust me”.

I had similar thoughts like that before I proposed. I had the ring in my possession, planning so much for the proposal and small fights would irritate me because I will think in my head. I am stressed from work, I spent all this money that I could have spent to pay off my car AND buy a motorcycle for myself and now I am planning how to propose and we get into little fights.

At the end of the day, dont worry about the little stuff. If he loves you, he will get over it and forgive you. I like the food idea. And if you havent made it up to your boyfriend yet, I suggest you do. Not anything crazy but a gentle, “hey babe, i am sorry i made a big deal out that girl at the office. I know I would get irritated too if you picked a fight with me for no reason. I trust you and I am so lucky to have you” and maybe a good dinner, a cuddle, or a long soft kiss just to remind him why he is in love with you is all that it takes.

And being a guy, giving him something out of the ordinary is a plus. I know what it is to stress about the ring and planning so reward him once in a while lol

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We annoy each other often… Just as much as we love each other. In my short 35 years I’ve learned your love and experiences are yours alone. You make it how you like.  

 

Care more about your upcoming marriage and that road. Life isn’t supposed to be perfect, Sweetpea. ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s ok. You’ll look back and laugh more than likely. How you get through the sticky times is what matters. 

 

PS – we are choosing my center stone tonight and got into a tif a few hours ago and then got right on over it. It’s an exciting time for them too. Lots of emotions floating around!

Post # 27
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@jsimp12:  So sorry to hear this! My Fiance and I got in a fight the day he bought the ring, too. He was being very elusive and told me he was going to a movie 45 minutes before I got off. Naturally, I got upset that he couldn’t wait for me to join. Now that we’re happily engaged, we laugh about how stupid it was that I got so angry with him. I know your story is a little different, but I’m sure it will not tarnish the day he proposes at all! It was just a rough day for you and you took it out on him. Hopefully he realizes that you didn’t mean to go off on him. 

Post # 28
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Blushing bee

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@JoJoDahling:  Love the food as make-up idea

Post # 29
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Honestly, doesn’t sound like a big thing to me. If you truly love each other, it will just amount to something you laugh off in the future. It’s not like he proposed to you that night.

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It will be okay. Just be sure that you guys make up and move on. Like PP satho fights will happen before, during, and after you’re engaged. DH and I had a heated “disagreement ” literally the day before he proposed. Of course it was about everyone around us getting engaged. He was actually happy about the disagreement because afterwards it took my mind of of proposals which is what he wanted.

Post # 31
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Blushing bee

This shouldn’t stop any proposal ideas but I wouldn’t make a habit of it. Being in a poor mood doesn’t give one the right to attack someone about irrelevant things like if his work has a new receptionist or not and then nagging about it. No wonder he’s pissed. Just give him space and apologise properly when there are no emotions flying around.

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