(Closed) HELP!! Bridesmaid Advice

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who Do I Choose?
    Lifelong Friend : (2 votes)
    7 %
    Closest Friend : (3 votes)
    10 %
    Family : (24 votes)
    83 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    434 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I voted family, I don’t know why except to me blood is thicker than water, I guess? The future could bring a lot with these two friends for the good and bad. I was able to have two cousins and a ton of friends, because sisters weren’t counted in the bridesmaid count since they wore dresses of their choice in a different color. I wish you could expand the bridal party and invite all three because it would be fun to have family and then three friends. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    31 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think you should pick your cousin. From what you described with the other two girls it doesnt sound like you fully trust them. The only negative you had about your cousin is that it may be too many family members. Your bridesmaids are supposed to be the women and girls who love you and support you. Whether they are all family members or elementary school friends. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    128 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    You should chose your cousin. I don’t think there is such a thing as “too much family”, its your family and its going to be your family for life. These friends sound like nice people, but are you still going to be talking to them in 20 years?

    Post # 6
    Member
    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I voted for your cousin.

    Based objectively on the things you wrote, it sounds like both of the other two could end up being lost friendships if you expect too much of them for the wedding. It doesn’t sound like they are all that great at following through in the first place and a wedding is a time where people REALLY either follow through or they completely fall flat, at least in my experience.

    Family is family, always. I don’t believe it’s possible to have “too much family.” Just for example, DH’s side was his brother (best man), my two brothers (fbil) and his best friend.

    Post # 7
    Member
    226 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2007

    I voted for family because from your post it sounded like you are now closest to your cousin.  In the end, I believe blood is thicker than water.  HTH.

    Post # 8
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    196 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Can you not just have the close friend and the cousin. It seems both mean a lot to you. My Fiance has more guy friends than me so he will have one extra attendent. It did not make any sense to eliminate one of them just to make the sides even.

    Post # 9
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    2416 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I vote family – it seems to make it easier that way, and less offensive to the other two if you think they may be hurt by your decision.

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