(Closed) Help! Bridesmaid dress selection

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

you can get the girls to do some homework and email you pictures of dresses they like thats in their price point.  Then maybe you can narrow it down to something that looks similiar to all they’re styles.  Honestly it could be hard making them all happy, but there has to be a compromise somewhere.  In the end its your decision, whether you want the girls to wear similiar or different dresses.  

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

As far as the one that’s on team matchy-matchy-bridal-army, just nicely tell her to stfu and disregard her comments. It’s your wedding, and you can have the girls dress differently if you want them to!

Are you having trouble finding things they like as far as style, color, or cost? (Or any combo)

If they all wear different dresses that mesh well together, they don’t have to be concerned with what the others are wearing. :p

If you’d like, you can show us what you’re looking for dress wise, and we can find more options to possibly appease your picky bridesmaids.

🙂

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

So if I’m reading this right, your original plan was to have each girl in a different dress, but the same color/fabric?  Did you give them any stipulations at all, or just leave the entire decision up to them to choose?

If you don’t want to give them a specific dress, then I’d suggest you give them some directions, so they know what to look for.  You can narrow it down to a manufactuer, color, color scheme or style.  That way, instead of just looking at all the dresses in the world, they’ll limit themselves to say “blue strapless dresses” or “anything by Alfred Angelo”.  Ultimately, if it proves to be too difficult to let them make the choice themselves, you could always select a few options and allow each lady to choose her individual dress.  I’ve been a part of a wedding where we used the David’s separates–we could choose any top we wanted, but all wore the same skirt.  This gave us some direction, but also discretion to pick something we found flattering.

FWIW, I asked my ladies to buy any black dress they liked from JCrew. They LOVED the dresses and I think they looked awesome.  Each gal was able to find a dress that was flattering and wearable for her, but there was consistency in the look because they were all in the same color/manufacturer.  Not only that, but JCrew has awesome sales, so they each found a dress on sale and no one spent more than $75!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

So things I learned, everyone has an opinion, some opinions are more than opinions but most if addressed nicely evaporate from people, after all it is your wedding. 

I think I’d try and figure out how much you’re comfortable on them spending, decide if you want to do it through an online vendor or in person.  Also decide what decisions you’re pretty set on – like color, do you know the color or are there like 3 options you can get feedback from them on.  Like I had a couple bridesmaids say please no ___ color or fabric, which was fine with me.  After that just start looking.  If you choose a popular color, you’ll have a lot more options for them to pick different dress styles, but it might be helpful for them if they know what you want and what you’re flexible with.  Like do you care if it’s strapless or halter or knee-length or tea-length or do you only care about color-fabric. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I love those purple dresses

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

Have you looked at the David’s Bridal ones in person? I went there and left within about ten minutes. The quality of those dresses was just ridiculously poor, in my opinion. 135$ for Wal-Mart quality dresses.

Sorry, little rant.

You should really look at those dresses very carefully in person.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

Have THEY seen them in person? lol

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

nortstroms! great dress selection – half the price or if the same price, decent quality and variety.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

barijay.com has amazing bridesmaids dresses. Im the moh for my best friend who is getting married next october and me and all the bridesmaids love our dress. reasonably priced too!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I second nordstrom, great customer service, and good sales, though it might be hard to do different dresses in the same color and fabric, you’d have to hope for a bit of luck or be a bit flexible.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

glad that you found them all dresses that they are happy with!  doesn’t it feel good to be able to check something like that off the list of to do’s?

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