(Closed) HELP!! Bridesmaid won’t make time for dress fittings!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Emmafay:  Well, first off, hopefully she is okay and nothing bad has happened!  Do you know she’s alive and well somewhere?  If so, and she doesn’t get around to getting her dress fitted, etc, then I guess she’s sort of removing herself from the bridal party once you get to a certain point.  It’s getting close and you can’t wait forever, nor can the alterations place.  They need a certain amount of time to get alterations done.  Just send a message and let her know that if she doesn’t get this done soon, then she’ll have to attend as a guest as the dress won’t have time to be altered.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you can’t speak with her in person, I would leave a voicemail and follow up with a text or email.

I would tell her that you are worried about her, because you haven’t heard back from her. I would ask  her to please call and let you know that she is ok. I would do all of this before I brought up anything about the dress or your wedding.

If you stilll don’t hear from her, I would leave another message giving her a deadline by which to get the dress fitting done or you would have to assume that she has chosen to step down as a Bridesmaid or Best Man.

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@julies1949:  Yes!  Very tactful way of putting it  =o)

Post # 8
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Busy bee

If she doesn’t have her dress and it doesn’t fit properly on the day of the wedding, then she cannot walk down the aisle or be a bridesmaid. Leave it at that and stop worrying about it.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Well, I guess it is up to her if she wants to use a bunch of safety pins to hold it together on the day!

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I’m confused about the urgency. She has ordered a dress, but has not picked it up yet or had it altered, right? And you have almost 2 months until the wedding? Why do you need to go with her to get her dress? I think maybe you are making this more stressful than necessary and her reaction is just to ignore. She might not be doing it on purpose, but really, from her point of view (and she would be right if she thought this), there is plenty of time left. A Bridesmaid or Best Man dress is not like your wedding dress. She will probably only need one fitting and the alterations will probably take a week. 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@Emmafay:  Really, the alterations are her responsibility. It sounds to me like you are micromanaging, and that she is not reacting well to that. Drop the dress off to her and tell her to get it fitted.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Emmafay:  Sounds like she either has some family/personal issues that she isn’t telling you about, or she’s just plain flaky.  I’d prepare for the worst case scenario and not count on her being able to participate in the wedding party, sadly.  If she can, then great, but it doesn’t look promising.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Hi Emma! So sorry to read about your problem. When is the wedding date? May 26th this year? I would be freaking out! It doesn’t seem like she is putting her responsibilities into place as a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Sure she may be a great friend or family member but you would think she wouldn’t want to stress you and it’s interesting that no one else is stressing you out like this. Just make sure she is okay and like one of the other brides stated earlier, you need to speak to her in person and if there is a problem with her work schedule or anything else that is her personal issues then maybe ask her if she wants to step down as a Bridesmaid or Best Man and let her know she is still welcomed to the bridal shower and bachelorette party but she needs someone who can be there as soon as possible and for everything you need. It should be fun! I feel like you can’t let this get you down. If she really cares for you she can understand you letting her know maybe this might not be the right position for her in the wedding. Good luck with everything and I hope you can be easy breezy finished very soon because OMG it is so soon that you will be a beautiful bride! *Think Honeymoon* xxx D

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