HELP! Bridesmaids don’t like dress color

posted 9 months ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should I change the color?
    No, it's you're wedding! You already compromised a bit. : (78 votes)
    78 %
    Yes! (Explain Below) : (16 votes)
    16 %
    Other (Explain Below) : (6 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 76
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2018

    strawberrysakura : That’s a very shallow interpretation of what I said. 

    Are you joking?  You literally said it bothers you when women hate pink and they should embrace it, I didn’t interpret anything, that is exactly what you said in your post.

    You have this odd assumption that not liking pink is an attack on girly women, which not only is false but not really related to the OP’s post at all. 

    Post # 77
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    Bumble bee

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    zzar45 :  No, I said I disliked it when people say they hate the color pink to make a point about gender stereotypes. 

    Disliking a color just because you don’t like it is fine. 

    Post # 78
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    Bee Keeper
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    strawberrysakura :  You are totally contradicting yourself here, if you claim “women ought to be supporting each other no matter what their preferences are” and yet some reasons for not liking a colour are deemed not good enough in your eyes?  If it is okay to like pink why is it okay to not like pink specifically because it is often forced on women? 

    No one’s opinion for liking or not liking something needs to pass an imaginary bar. 

    Post # 79
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    Bumble bee

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    zzar45 :  I’m saying that yes, pink is often forced on women and that is problematic. Pink tends to symbolize being girly and traditionally feminine and there’s this idea behind it that women must be a certain way. That’s wrong – there are lots of different ways to be a woman. But one of those ways is also to be traditional and girly. There are studies out there that show that women wearing pink are taken less seriously. Why? Because women are taken less seriously and pink = women. What I was suggesting is that instead of no one ever wearing pink because they might be taken less seriously, wouldn’t it be better to instead support the idea that women can be taken seriously no matter what color they wear? That the color in itself isn’t the problem, but the attitudes behind it are? 

    There are so many people saying they HATE pink on this board. I brought it up because while some people might just dislike the color, many people dislike it for a reason and that has nothing to do with OP’s question. There’s a lot of vitirol about the color, and why? The OP didn’t ask if people love pink. She didn’t ask people to judge her color preference. If her color was navy blue I highly doubt she would have so many responses about how much people HATE navy blue and how it isn’t approriate to wear past a certain age. Sure, someone might say navy blue washes them out or they personally don’t like it, but not to this level. 

    Literally all I was saying is that all women should be embraced, those who see themselves as traditionally girly, and those who don’t. I am really surprised that people are offended by that. I wasn’t saying everyone has to love the color pink or that everyone who hates it has an agenda. 

    Post # 80
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2021 - City, State

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    strawberrysakura :  how about you stop derailling the thread with your strong stance on pink? You made this huge statement and are now trying to justify it, how about I just loan you a shovel to dig yourself out that hole you’re insistent on being in and stop going on about why you’re right?

    OP – for me personally I think this colour is quite a young colour, but I wouldn’t wear pink, I own nothing that is pink and I have weird coloured hair so it wouldn’t suit me personally, I also believe people should be comfortable at your wedding, I may have missed it with the PP banging on but why not ask your bridesmaids if they like it and if not why? 

    Post # 81
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    Busy bee

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    strawberrysakura :  I agree sometimes people are crazy about how much they HATE pink, I’ve never seen anything like it.

    To the OP I like your candy pink and it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks because it’s your wedding, your sisters are gonna have to just get over it. When I was a bridesmaid I wouldn’t have dreamed of complaining about the color of the bridesmaids dress. And I’m sure you’ve picked some lovely styles for you me sisters to wear. People are acting like candy pink is the same as a nasty vomit color or something hideous, I mean give me a break. 

    Post # 82
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    Bumble bee

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    whoswho :  I hardly think I made a ‘huge statement’, and I didn’t think the statement I made was something so offensive it was worth arguing about. Your point is well taken though, thank you. 

    Post # 83
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2021 - City, State

    <Deleted as not relevant and derailling thread>

    Post # 84
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    Bumble bee

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    whoswho :  I know where you are coming from. I thought it had something to do with her question because it was essentially, “can I dictate the color of the bridesmaids dresses even if they don’t like it” and she got a lot of comments about how so many people hate pink. I thought that was pretty judgmental and unfair to the OP. 

    Post # 85
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    I didn’t read all six pages but I don’t get the big deal..it sounds like much ado about nothing. I have privately bitched about every bridesmaid dress I ever had to wear…but I still showed up on the day and wore the damn dress. That is just the way it goes. 

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