Post # 1
I really need some advice on what drinks to serve at our wedding. The wedding will be a Sunday brunch, with “cocktail hour” starting at 11:00 and brunch starting at 12:00 noon. Our venue is amazing and there will be more than enough food (buffet style with a carving station) but their beverage choices are limited. The buffet only comes with tea and coffee!! Our budget is super tight but I’m not sure how people would feel with only those drink options. We could also do:
- Mimosas during cocktail hour ($9 per person)
- Juice and pop ($7 per person)
- Bar by consumption ($7 beer or wine)
What do you think? Is it bad manners to serve no alcohol at all at a daytime wedding? (if we serve any alcohol we also have to pay for security guards).
Thanks for your help!!
Post # 2
Personally, I always want to have a drink or two at a wedding, and am not a fan of dry weddings at all.
I would rather have a cash bar than no bar at all, even though I also dislike cash bars.
Post # 3
blueberry88: We’re having a brunch reception also. We plan to have Mimosas with the hors d’oeuvres and wine with the brunch. And champagne. There will be non alcohol versions as well.
If you want to go without alcohol at all, I think that’s fine – it is a daytime event. We’d have gone without (we aren’t drinkers – at all ) but we thought the Mimosas sounded fun and Fiance can’t imagine serving a meal with out offering a glass of wine.
Post # 4
mimosas!! I am alos having a brunch wedding and we are serving some type of alcohol. it doesnt have to be heavy drinks but dry weddings are hard to stomach for some people. me included.
Post # 5
blueberry88: I would say bar by consumption. This gives your guests options as to what they would like to drink. Not everyone likes mimosas and I think it is nice to offer guests alcohol.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I would be all about a couple mimosas or glasses of white wine, and my husband would definitely want to drink a couple beers. It’s still a celebration after all!
I’d serve as much free alcohol as your budget can possibly allow, and do a cash bar after that.
$7 for juice or pop seems like a crazy ripoff, but it’s also polite to have something refreshing (eg not coffee/tea) for the non-drinkers.
Post # 7
blueberry88: I’d do bar by consumption, since mimosas are almost always a rip off…it’d be cute if you could do an “Irish” coffee bar (whiskey, bailey’s, kahlua…hmm). But I would try to pay for at least a few drinks.
EDIT: I would also attempt to negotiate that security guard business off your contract…that is totally overkill for a BRUNCH wedding.
Post # 8
Agree with pervious posters: it is so nice to be able to offer the choice to have a couple drinks at a wedding; likely no one will get trashed in the middle of the day and at a wedding? It also will encourage guests to stay longer I would think…
a cute idea could be to have different champagne cocktails (I.e strawberry) as an alternative to the traditional orange juice one bring the only option.
Post # 9
Honestly, I would splurge to provide the alcohol. I doubt people will drink as much as at an evening reception, but it’s nice to offer it as a choice.
Post # 10
CalOilerGurl: +1 I really love the ideas of champagne cocktails! perfect for lunch.
Post # 11
We did a brunch wedding and had champagne, mimosas, bloody marys, and 3 different wines (red and white).
Post # 12
We are doing a brunch wedding as well. However, our budget does not allow for us to provide alcohol, so we will be having a cash bar for those that wish to buy bloody marys, mimosas and such. We also can’t really afford a “cocktail hour” with hors d’ ouvres, but another bee suggested a coffee bar where guests can have coffee, tea or cocoa with special syrups, toppings etc. I think this is a lovely idea and want to do this with maybe some mini muffins or pastries, etc.
Post # 13
Thanks for all of the comments everyone, they were extremely helpful!
I guess we are going to have to go over budget for drinks. I am going to talk to the venue since we can’t bring our own alcohol, but maybe they will let us supply our own pop/juice. I agree that $7 per person is ridiculous. We will stick to the passed cocktails and have beer/wine and pay by consumption as well as pop/juice.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
Cash bars are tacky – they make the guests feel like they’re paying for the privilege of being at a wedding. (Think of it this way: would you serve plated dinner then present the guests with a bill + tip?) Better to have the cheaper option (beer and wine only by consumption) or no alcohol than ask guests to pony up.
Brunch wedding sounds lovely, though.