- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
This is pretty much a novel, so sorry in advance!
Okay, I have a huge issue you guys! I fell in love with a Maggie Sottero dress. I love almost everything about it . Oh, except the price. It was around $1300 dollars, which I know isn’t outrageous for a wedding dress, but it is still more than I felt comfortable spending for a dress. (more on that later) I tried looking for it used, but I couldn’t find it for a price I felt confortable paying. I was about to cave and buy the dress when I found an Alita Graham lace mermaid gown for only $400. I bought it on the spot from the seller online (before someone else had a chance to snatch it up!) because I thought it was beautiful and definitely more affordable. I was worried about the shape though. I have an hourglass figure, but I hate how big my hips are. A mermaid is DEFINITELY not going to make them look any smaller! But gosh, this dress sure is pretty! I was hoping it would give my shape a nice sexy silhouette.
Anyway, I tried on the dress as soon as I got it. I loved the lace (like, it is the most beautiful lace I have ever seen!) and the dress was simply gorgeous!! …but I’m not sure it is right on me! I never imagined myself in a mermaid, and always thought I would have something a little poofier and fuller. I also worried about the silhouette it gave me. Like I said, I hate my hips. H.A.T.E. T.H.E.M.
I don’t know what to do. I know most of you bees are going to say that I should cut other areas to be able to afford my dream dress, but I have already cut every area as much as possible because while we are saving for our wedding (paying for everything ourselves on one income), we are also trying to replace all the electronics in our house (recently experienced a break in and we didn’t have renter’s insurance which also includes replacing my wedding band), as well as save for a house in the very near future before our child starts school. So although I could spend the money on the dress, it would be coming out of our savings for other very important things for our family which I feel like would be extremely selfish of me.
Now, I’m at a loss. I definitely don’t hate the dress. It is beautiful! I showed a few people the dress on me, and they all said it looked amazing. I got a freaking rockin gown that I love for only $400 makes me feel way better than the guilt I would have spending over $1000 for a dress that I will wear only one day, but I also don’t think it is the “perfect” dress for me.
Years from now when I look at pictures of me in the dress I don’t think I will feel disappointed because the gown is so pretty and it was such a good deal (I should be on one of those coupon shows because I get such a rush knowing I got something at an awesome price! Best feeling ever!), but I do worry that on my actually wedding day I will feel slightly disappointed that I don’t have a bigger more flowy gown to feel more bridal. (Maybe the feeling will change once I get a veil and everything on. I mean, how could I not feel bridal, right?).
Bees!! Help me feel better or give me some advice on what to do!
p.s. Here is me in the dress. It isn’t altered yet, so it is a little loose around the hips and thighs which makes them look even bigger. I’m also trying to decide on if I should wear a belt of some kind and/or a petticoat.
I want to absolutely fall in love with it! I mean, I do LOVE the dress, but I want to love it on me! I’m hoping that once I get it altered, I will actually love it on me because it is hard to love something that doesn’t fit right. The corset is also messed up and needs to be fixed so maybe that will help me feel better about the shape as well.
Here it is with the flash on so you can see the beading and lace details a little better.