(Closed) Help! Calling all Catholic Bees

posted 5 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
Hostess
16215 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Would you be able to be married in the Catholic Church if your Fiance gets baptized through his Methodist church?

Post # 4
Member
1333 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I may be offering the wrong advice, but you could look at/talk to other (maybe less conserative) Catholic Churches in your area to see if they would allow you to marry under your circumstances?!

The reason I say that, and this is different, but my sister wanted her baby baptised at church A, but was ultimately told no because one god parent was not Catholic, and the other had a different ‘frowned’ upon reason.  So she went to Church B, and that priest did it, no problem!!

I am sorry you are going thru this, ESPECIALLY bc I would have to guess that a question of religious histories/upbringings would be asked in Pre-Cana…heck, they/some ask if two people have had sex before marriage!!  Good luck 🙂

Post # 6
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218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Is your FI willing to get baptized? It is the only way if you want to have your ceremony in the Catholic church. I bet your church would do an adult baptism if Fiance is willing. Just talk to them about it. Otherwise, you can look into non-denominational chapels that are less restrictive.

Post # 7
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218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Gemstone:  

@MrsDeLovely:  

To get married in the Catholic church only one must be Catholic but both must be baptized.

Post # 9
Hostess
16215 posts
Honey Beekeeper

@MrsDeLovely:  Are you sure it’s too late? Adult baptisms (believers’ baptisms) occur regularly at my Methodist church. Have you looked into it at your FI’s home church?

Unfortunately, if for some reason that’s not an option, it sounds like you’ll have to change the location of your ceremony. I know you’re heartset on your church, but I promise that you can have an incredibly special and meaningful ceremony at a different location that welcome both you and your Fiance.

Post # 10
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934 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am not baptized or religious in any fashion and my Fiance is Catholic. We are getting married in the Catholic church. I really don’t know much about it, but I believe that marriages between catholics and non catholics (even us non-baptized ones) are allowed under canon law. 

There are many more knowledgeable bees out there than me though. I just wanted to let you know that it is possible. Maybe try a different priest. 

ETA: Here is a link…http://www.catholic.com/quickquestions/if-a-baptized-catholic-marries-a-non-baptized-person-is-that-a-valid-marriage

We are getting a dispensation. The priest said it is fairly normal, just some paperwork that my Fiance will sign. 

 

Post # 12
Member
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would look into having him baptized in the Methodist church. Many of my family members are Methodist and the confirmation/baptism process is much shorter than it is in the Catholic church. I remember my cousins taking classes for about 2 months, then being able to be baptized and confirmed (as opposed to in the Catholic church, where you have to take classes that run from September to Easter). You said you don’t think he will have time to be baptized by September. Is this because you checked into it? Or is that just a guess? If you haven’t checked with the Methodist church, you might do that to see how long it would take.

Post # 13
Member
1333 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MrsDeLovely:  Completely agree!! Which is why I am wondering if there is a different Catholic Church that WOULD allow it?! 

Post # 14
Member
133 posts
Blushing bee

A Catholic can marry a non-Catholic, you just need extra paperwork done. The paperwork is different depending if the non-Catholic is a baptized Christian or not. Your church should be able to help you with this, if not talk to the diocese. Good luck!

http://old.usccb.org/laity/marriage/marriagefaqs.shtml

4. If a Catholic wants to marry a non-Catholic, how can they assure that the marriage is recognized by the Church?

In addition to meeting the criteria for a valid Catholic marriage (see question #3), the Catholic must seek permission from the local bishop to marry a non-Catholic. If the person is a non-Catholic Christian, this permission is called a “permission to enter into a mixed marriage.” If the person is a non-Christian, the permission is called a “dispensation from disparity of cult.” Those helping to prepare the couple for marriage can assist with the permission process.

Post # 15
Member
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree with some of the other bees. According to the information we recieved during our marriage prep through the Catholic church, a baptized catholic can marry a non babtized person in the church. The just use a different ceremony and I don’t think you recieve the Sacrament. So if you still have time I would check other churches in the area to see if they are less strict.

 

Post # 16
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1805 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My fi is catholic and I was raised Christian orthodox and the first thing they asked me was if I’d been baptized and wanted all the original paperwork from the church. I’m sorry this is happening to you 🙁

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