(Closed) Help! Calling all Catholic Bees

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

It sounds like there are some less strict churches out there according to pps! Our church will only do a mass for two Catholics and a shorter ceremony without a mass if your partner is a baptized Christian.. They told us if one person is not Christian or not baptized they wouldn’t do it but I’m wondering now if they’re just very strict. Try having him baptized ASAP ..the good news is you already have your pre cana started so you won’t be trying to do a bunch of classes at once! Come back and tell us if you figured out a way to get him baptized, good luck!!!

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MrsDeLovely:  Hmmm… This doesn’t seem right.  A Catholic can definitely marry a non-Christian or a non-baptized Christian in the Catholic Church, it just won’t be sacramental and you do need to get a dispnesation from your bishop.  I would go back to your priest and ask him about this or find another church.  If, however, you want a sacramental marriage, then your Fiance would have to be baptized.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You can get married in the church you just can’t have a full mass. If your priest is telling you he must be baptized call the diocese bscause that isn’t following the guidelines. There is extra paperwork required but it is possible. 

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I got married in the Catholic Church with a full wedding mass and my husband is a baptised Lutheran with no intention of turning Catholic. We did file for a dispensation, which was described to us as a formality. From the pps it sounds like different churches have different guidelines, so hopefully you can find something fitting your needs or he can get baptised in the next couple of months. Good luck!

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

You absolutely can be married in a Catholic Church.  I attended a wedding in the Catholic Church where the bride was Catholic and the groom was Hindu. Just keep looking.  Not all churches are that strict.  It may not be a sacramental marriage if both are not baptized, but it will be a legal marriage.

 

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

is he willing to do the transformation? See how long it takes where you are.

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

is he willing to do the transformation? See how long it takes where you are.

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MrsDeLovely:  I agree with everyone.  You can still get married within the Church but it will mean more paperwork and your marriage, though legal, is not “sacremental”.  

If your priest still does not want to conduct your wedding because he’s not baptized, then I would find another priest within the diocese who will.

Post # 27
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Any Christian baptism will “count” as a baptism in the eyes of the Catholic church. If he is a practicing Methodist this should be pretty easy to do through his church. 

Post # 28
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

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@MrsDeLovely:  Woah. Fr. D sounds pretty cool. You scored. I worked at a parish with a very liberal pastor. He would have been totally fine with marrying you, but I don’t think he would have EVER said non-Catholics could recieve communion. That’s pretty wild! Sounds like you have the perfect guy for your situation! Congratulations!

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

So sorry to hear that you are going through this. I believe that you could get married as long as you start the RICA program at any church. He will have to continue to attend after the wedding though. Have you asked about him doing all his sacraments there or he wouldn’t want to convert to catholic?

Post # 30
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2000

So glad you sorted it out 🙂 Religion shouldn’t be an obstacle to love. God is love 🙂

Post # 31
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

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@MrsDeLovely:  Congrats! When I first read this, I thought “hang on, there’s something off here”, because the catechism allows for a marriage between a Catholic and a non-Christian/unbaptised person. It’s called a “natural marriage”.

However, I am a little surprised at your having a nuptual mass, because the catechism also says that a natural marriage must not take place within a mass. Presumably you will have to get a dispensation to have a nuptual mass in this case.

Where I am then non-Catholics are not allowed to take mass. I think it is very sad. A lot of priests are actually quietly easy going about it (they look the other way), but my Fiance is very traditional like that and insists that I shouldn’t take mass when I attend church with him (I am a Methodist).

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