(Closed) Help! Can’t decide on the dress…

posted 6 years ago in Dress
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  • Post # 3
    23609 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    If you know taht the dress is absolutely THE dress, I say you should go for it.  But it really depends on how much more than your original dress budget we’re talking about…

    Post # 5
    399 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Just be careful how it may look to your guests. If it’s obvious that you have gone all out on your gown and its clear you have skipped on the food or favors, people wont be impressed.

    Post # 6
    106 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @garnet2013:  Personally I feel that it is the feeling of love in the room having your friends and family share in your marriage that you remember long after your wedding day. I’m not saying the dress isn’t important, but you do have to think about whether you would like a wedding day where you spend a bit more on the food and drinks and your guests and the party aspect, or whether you feel like the dress is the most important thing. Only you can make that decision. For me, the celebration is so important. Whilst I hope to look back on the day and be happy about how I looked, I really want to remember what is was like to have everyone I care about in a room having a great time at my wedding. I think you have to make the decision based on what you would regret least.

    Post # 7
    2084 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 1993

    I’d go with less. However, do you have pics we could vote on?

    Post # 10
    2335 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Is that the budget or the dream dress?  People may be able to help you find a similiar-looking dream dress that costs less.

    Post # 11
    8883 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I’d get the dream dress!

    Post # 12
    8 posts

    So far, you’ve identified the two following two options.

    You can spend a zillion dollars on your dream dress and feel guilty about cheap-skating the rest.

    You can spend the budgeted amount on not-your-dream dress and feel sad about that.

    I’d like to suggest adding the below to your list of choices:

    Look for less expensive ways to get the dress you love, e.g., a sample sale, online, or buying a designer knockoff from overseas.

    Look for less expensive ways to fund the rest of the wedding, so you can afford the “real” dress at the retail price.


    Are either of these a possibility?

    Post # 14
    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    @garnet2013:  I ordered a Priscilla of Boston replica from overseas.  Original tag was $3500, bought it for $410 (made to size, shipped for free).  I’m picking it up Saturday and would be happy to share an honest opinion.  I budgeted $350 for a dress, don’t know designers, etc….so this worked for me, although I know it does not work for all.  But I tried on dresses, and nothing really sparked until I found this dress online (never tried it on! eeek!).

    Anyways, sorry to be long winded, but I think you have to decide what’s most important to you.  If the dress is one of the most important things for your day, then go with it.  But if you aren’t stuck on a certain designer, then maybe a replica, discount dress, model dress could work for you. πŸ™‚

    Post # 15
    828 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    This is what I’ve learned from the planning process, I started off thinking, “Other people might spend xyz on a cake or on catering or flowers but I’m not going to spend that much and I’m still going to get what I want.” And in some cases it’s been true, I’ve done a lot of research and found some vendors that I consider to be great deals, but all in all things cost what they cost. For instance renting tables and chairs? All of the rental companies that work in the same area have very similar pricing for the same items. Beverage service? companies that offer very similar bars and service have similar pricing. So before you blow the budget on a dress which is one of the items whose price can vary drastically, I would advise you get a good handle on how much you’re really going to have left over to spend on everything else.


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