- 5 years ago
I’m in the same predicament.. 3 years ago me and Future Sister-In-Law were friends, dare I say close. Then her bf broke up with her and she basically turned on me. It was all very weird. She did a BUNCH of small things that just added up to me basically hating her. Things to make me look bad to her parents etc. I’ve tried addressing this with her once but didn’t go anywhere bc I really feel her apologies are fake and not meaningful. Shes selfish and self centered and the problem is the FMIL/FFIL are always making excuses for her terrible and bratty behavior. “She has to work, she is studying, she lives 2 hours away, she is stressed.” Like honestly WHO DOESNT WORK! WHO ISNT STRESSED! It takes 2 seconds to send a text Hi how are ya?! Keep in mind this woman is 30. We are cordial at holiday/family functions but we barely have any communication outside of that. I don’t consider her a friend at all anymore and frankly it bothers me very much. I always went into this excited about gaining a sister until she made the turn. Now I feel like she owes me more than an apology. Idk what. About a week after we got engaged my Future Mother-In-Law kinda cornered me about who I would have be in my bridal party. I felt very pressured and made the mistake of saying that Future Sister-In-Law would “of course be a bridesmaid .. I don’t really have a choice” and laughed it off to make it light. Now I’m 100% sure Future Mother-In-Law told Future Sister-In-Law would be a Bridesmaid or Best Man and I still haven’t asked her. Our wedding is 6 months away so I know I need to suck it up and ask her already but I just can’t. I feel like she’s winning. I have a serious grudge holding problem as you can tell (only with her though funny enough) but there are many things where I feel like she not only fell short but completely sucks at being a friend. And I’m having a hard time faking wanting her to be a part of my big day. . My Maid/Matron of Honor who knows all the details thinks I should just not include her but we both know that would cause problems with my future in laws which I don’t want. Even recently she acted so completely immature and ridiculous ..I decided to address it with her and although I did feel better I still don’t want her in the wedding. Why can’t she just do a reading? Ugh!
Thank you for letting me vent! How can I come to terms with this in my own mind?