(Closed) Help: cat vs. stepdaughter

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
2620 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: County courthouse

I have 3 cats. If my kids were severely allergic there is no doubt that I would get rid of them. People come before animals.

Post # 3
9527 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I love animals- dearly but the daughter comes first. Kitty needs a new home 

Post # 4
327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Get rid of the cat? I’m sorry this just seems like a no brainer to me. I don’t see why this is a hard decision for you. 

Post # 5
3434 posts
Sugar bee

Is this a real post? Just asking because very recently (like yesterday or this morning), there was a post about a daughter in law torn up about whether her Mother-In-Law should come over to her house when her Mother-In-Law is super allergic to her cat.

Also, maybe Darling Husband does understand the dilemma even though he isn’t a pet owner, but thinks it is obvious that his daughter should be comfortable and not sick for the next 12 years.

Post # 6
47209 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

mrsanonkitty:  Stepdaughter trumps pet.

We have children who come into ER all the time with asthma attacks because their parents refuse to give up pets that they are allergic to.Why would a person choose to put a child’s life on the line, because they are attached to a pet?

Her reactions could get progressively more serious.

Do you have a friend or family member who would agree to take the cat so you could still have conatact?

Post # 7
1042 posts
Bumble bee

mrsanonkitty:  What about shots? I have a friend who was swollen throat allergic to cats, and she takes shots and now has three cats. 

Post # 8
5154 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Cat trumps stepdaughter, any day. Could you find someone you know (family/friends) who are willing to take the cat in? Then you could still visit! 

Post # 9
716 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Have you tried maybe seeing a naturopath for alternative allergy treatments? There are some pretty neat things out there that seem to work well for people..

Also, just a thought — my Fiance was super allergic to cats (like when he would go to other people’s homes who had cats) but then we fell in love with my brother’s cat and ended up adopting him. They (FI and out kitty) have lived together for a couple years and he has no allergic reations any longer, it’s like he got used to his dander. Not sure how normal this is, but it might be worth considering.

I would do everything in my power to come up with a solution before getting rid of my cat. I understand children must come first, but I would try every little thing I could!

I work for a naturopath, and she has some patients who use this and really like it:


Just a thought 🙂


Post # 10
7642 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m a cat lady, but in that situation I’d find a new home for the cat.

Post # 11
2146 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

you adjust to cat dander, everyone without exposure suffers (I had cats all childhood then didnt for over 10 year, then got new cats an had horrible reactions for the first month while i re-adjusted) its a fine cell that irratates the bodies IgE exactly the same way hayfever does and is caused by an underactive immune system waking open, basic science they settle down

I wish people would stop throwing away cats before learning this and if you do you’ll break your sons heart, I never got over my mom giving my cat away (who then died btw) because of her husbands allergy that actually later settled down and disapeared (guess who can now be around the cats )

Post # 12
2774 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Cat < Stepdaughter. 



Post # 13
1326 posts
Bumble bee


It’s been a month though, and the girl is suffering… How long do you recommend they “wait and see?” 

Post # 14
47209 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

btob17:  Explain that to the children I see in ER who have been coming in with ever increasing asthma attacks for years. Don’t worry honey. I know it feels like you are hardly moving any air right now, but if we are patient, things might change. I’m sure you won’t be on the ventilator too long this time”.


Post # 15
9281 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

SLOBee:  I thought the same thing!

I was Team Keep Kitty in that thread, but the health of wee dependents weren’t involved. In this case, you have to look out for the non-furries.

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