- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2016
Regular bee going anon.
I don’t want to make this lengthy, but I really need help.
I have just married the man of my dreams. Second marriage for us both. We are a blended family. I have an 8 year-old son, and he has a 6 year-old daughter. We didn’t live together before marriage. While I lived with my son, he did not live with his daughter. She lived with her mom. Not getting into all of the details, but now that we are married and have gotten a house, his daughter (my new stepdaughter) has come to live with us. My Darling Husband couldn’t be happier that he has custody of his daughter and we can all be a family.
I wish this was a “and they lived happily ever after, blended family and all” story, but it’s not. I have a cat. I’ve had him since he was just a kitten. He’s 5, and he’s more than just a cat to me! He’s like my second son. Darling Husband loves my cat, my son loves the cat, I think stepdaughter WOULD love the cat… but she’s allergic.
I mean HIGHLY allergic. It’s not something that was ever even on our radar, as before marriage we lived separately. His daughter never came to my house or interacted with my cat, I just had no clue. Things went haywire when we all moved in together. She constantly has red, watery eyes, itchy throat, sneezing, hives… We’ve taken her to the doctor to see if there are any remedies, but NOTHING works. It’s been a month, and there is no solution.
For the moment, we are keeping the cat in the spare office that we have. But I’m sure he’s miserable. He’s gone from having free range to being confined to one space. If we let him out and my stepdaughter gets anywhere near him or the dander, it’s absolute havoc for her. I’ve noticed her also sticking to her own bedroom, which is the one room that the cat will never enter.
I just feel awful. Neither my stepdaughter or my cat are living the highest quality of life possible. I don’t want either of them to be prisoners in their own home. What would you do? The idea of giving up my cat makes me ill, but I just can’t imagine having my stepdaughter suffer in her own new home. What should be a joyful time for us all, just isn’t…
For what it’s worth, Darling Husband isn’t pressuring me. He’s never had a pet so I don’t think he understands the dilemma, but he has been trying to find solutions other than rehoming the cat. But once we have exhausted all mediums, I’m not sure it’s something we can avoid discussing.
What would you do?!? What SHOULD I do? I just feel like there’s no “winning” this one.