Post # 1
Hi there. Am hoping for some guidance from people who have been through something similar before. We want to get married in the Catholic church but are getting married in Amelia Island, Florida where the Catholic church is too small to hold all of our guests. So we are planning to do a small, family only ceremony on Saturday morning at the church and then another ceremony for all guests that evening. The priest will only be performing the morning ceremony and my dad will be performing the evening ceremony. I need some help on a few things:
1. Invitations – can I just tell my aunts, uncles, etc about the Catholic ceremony or do I need to send formal invitations?
2. Ceremonies – since we will already be legally married by the time the evening ceremony comes around, what should the structure of the ceremony be?
3. Celebrant – even though my dad is the celebrant of our ceremony in the evening, I still want him to walk me down the aisle. The priest won’t be there anymore. Any advice on how to make this work?
Thanks for your help!
Post # 3
I would suggest:
– printing some invitations for the church ceremony (since that’s the actual wedding in both the legal and religious sense) and including those in the envelopes for the invited family members
– printing the invitation to the evening event with wording such as “We invite you to celebrate the marriage of [name] and [name] …
– as far as the logistics of the evening, I guess it depends on what you envision. Do you want to make it reminiscent of a church wedding, or do you want it to be more secular? Do you want to involve family/friends in doing readings or singing songs? How long do you want it to run? Are you and your Fiance going to repeat your vows? Exchange vows you write yourself?
I would suggest maybe writing down a rough draft outline of everything you think you might want to include, and then play around with it: move the order around, edit it down to the length you want, etc.
Post # 4
@hilwilk: I agree with @KCKnd2‘s response. I would word it that way. I was kinda on the same situation, except we’re concerned about the time gap. But in the end, we decided to keep it as it is: Catholic ceremony in the early afternoon, reception in the late afternoon including an extended cocktail hour.