- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 2017
Sorry for the long post, but I am hoping some unbiased thoughts and opinions from people not directly involved or know me will help!
Me and my Fiancé have been engaged for a year, together for 7.5.
We met at school originally, but both had other boyfriends/girlfriends at the time. He went off to college and I stayed on at school – we had mutual friends, so used to see each other every so often. I always liked him.
When I became single, we then starting talking, met up and things went from there! It hasn’t been a smooth 7 years, as with every relationship, it has had ups and downs and some very bad downs too.
My fiancé is a wonderful man – loving, caring, protective and our relationship is great.
Growing up, my Mum and her best friend had children at the same time. I grew up with a boy (we will call him Daniel) and we were very close. When we were in our teens, things progressed and feelings starting happening between us. I, at the time, had a boyfriend but things became more than just friends with Daniel with lots of cuddles and almost having a kiss – which never happened.
When I broke up with my boyfriend, I really thought Daniel would have made a move – and at least asked me out or asked to meet up, but I didn’t hear a word from him. This is where me and my now Fiancé starting things up.
Small world – but my Fiancé and Daniel actually went to college together, so knew each other and were actually good friends. I think Daniel used to talk about me a lot to all of his friends at the time, so was very disappointed and upset with my Fiancé when we started dating. It was from there Daniel distanced himself from me and my Fiancé and the relationship between us all dwindled.
Understandably, as me and Daniels parents are very close, we often see each other at family gatherings/christenings/occasions etc. Every time we see each other, there is an electric tension between us – I know when we look at each other we are thinking the same thing and its painful.
I recently saw Daniel (a couple of weeks ago), at his younger brothers Holy Communion. My Fiancé couldn’t make it, so I went alone with my parents. I hate to say it, but I was so excited to see him.
There was some awkward tension and I kept catching him looking at me – when we did finally talk and look at each other – I could see he was thinking the same as me. We had a wonderful afternoon chatting and playing some immature garden games!
Now, leading up to 18 months to go until my BOOKED wedding – I am wondering if I should meet with Daniel and talk to him about everything – maybe to get some closure on the whole situation?
I am worried I will forever feel this way about Daniel but will be married to another man. But what happens if we meet and I feel even more for him.
I have to point out, Daniel has never had a girlfriend of serious partner/relationship since I have known him – I know he has “seen” girls, but nothing has ever escalated.
My question is, Daniel has agreed to meet with me later today – should I meet with him? Or move on, forget everything and marry the man that is so very right for me?