(Closed) Help Choosing A Quality Ring Setting !

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1129 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You should add a poll. My favorite is the last one.

Post # 4
985 posts
Busy bee

What do you think SHE would like best? Has she given you any pointers? I think you should ask for any other details (other than white metal) that she would like. They are all beautiful rings, but depending on her personal taste she may love or hate the ring that the majority of bees tell you is the best. 

Personally I like the 2nd and 3rd moissanite rings the best as they are delicate but it doesn’t look like the pave stones will get caught too much. Take that with a grain of salt though!

Post # 5
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012


I strongly suggest that you get input from your Girlfriend… and that she go to a Jewellery Store… alone, with GFs, or with you and TRY ON RINGS (if she has not already done so)

The whole idea of a Surprise Engagement sounds nice… but the fact is this is a ring that you expect her to LOVE and wear 24/7 x 365 Days a Year FOREVER

And just like not every piece of clothing made suits every body, so it is with Jewellery **

(Have seen too many posts here on WBee either by Grooms-2B or Brides-2B who find themselves after The Proposal, facing the truth that the ALL IMPORTANT RING isn’t to the Girl’s Taste… and their Relationship is headed for the ditch due to hurt feelings on BOTH sides !!)

** Think of it this way… (the analogy that I used with my own Now Husband at the time of of talking Engagement)

He is a HUGE Hockey Nut, I know very little about Hockey Equipment (you probably know very little about Jewellery).  I have almost no info on this front in regards to his size, needs or skill level.  So I asked him how he’d feel if I went out and bought him a whole bunch of Hockey Equipment without his input or trying it on… and then I told him… THAT IS IT… This all you have to deal with for the next 25+ Years.  Hope you like it !!

Or what if I bought him a shirt… and then told him it was THE ONLY Shirt he could ever wear for the rest of his life ?

He very quickly saw my point of view…

In so much as this is not only a SYMBOLIC Purchase… but also a SIGNIFICANT one from a Financial POV

And much like a car, when you take a piece of jewellery “off the lot” it typically drops in value and becomes very hard to return, trade, or resell !!

ALL Important things to consider.

So ya, I’d get her input.  But I’d also insist that she honestly go out and try rings on… cause just like a piece of clothing what looks good in a photograph might not look so good on one’s body… just ask any woman who has ever gone out to buy a bathing suit… or a dress for a special occasion.

Everyone’s hands are different… and what suits each of us, as well as reflecting our tastes & preferences can be quite different as well.

Hope this helps,

PS… Other alternatives, to still be able to make a total surprise:

* You can Propose “sans Ring” and shop afterwards together

* OR you can Propose with an inexpensive “stand in ring”… be it a piece of costume jewellery, a Promise Ring… or someother item that has meaning to the two of you (have heard of Twist-Tie Engagements for example)


Post # 7
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

To @RastaCook:  As far as shopping locally… It doesn’t matter if she is trying on Moissys, Diamonds, or Gemstones… what she needs to determine is what looks good on her finger… vs what looks good in a photograph.

Like I said, that can be vastly different.

There is NO OBLIGATION when you try on Jewellery in a store.

Infact, Mr TTR & I took quite a bit of time to find my ERing…

And whenever we went into a store, we just said “we were beginning to look… and trying to get an idea as to styles etc”

That was pretty much the truth.

That is all she need say, whether she is alone, with GFs, or with you.

Trust me… Women “try on shop” all the time be it clothes or jewellery… there is nothing unusual about this.

It will save you both a lot of time, bother and possibly money in the long run !!


Post # 8
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2000

Jewelry is phenomenally personal.  What type of jewelry does your girlfriend typically wear?  Does she like big and chunky, vintage, classic, or unique jewelry?  Some girls value small, but real diamonds over larger imitation diamonds.  Some prefer colored gemstones to diamonds.  Go through your girlfriend’s jewelry box, and take some pictures of pieces she wears regularly, and let that be your guide to picking out a ring for her.   

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