Post # 1
Hi all! My SO and I are in the process of picking a wedding date and are having a bit of an issue. He’s starting grad school in the fall, and will have to go year round for his first year. So, if we want to get married within the next 2 years, it has to be in December during his winter break. The best options for us would be December 22 or December 29. I know it’s not ideal for guests, but is there a date that would be more considerate of their holiday plans? Thanks for the help!
Post # 2
I think the 29 would be better for most people (assuming a good number of your group will be celebrating Xmas). A lot of people travel for Xmas but are back before New Years. Right before Xmas is hectic for most people with last minute shopping, travel, etc, whereas the week between Xmas and NY tends to be slower. Can your VIPs make both dates?
Post # 3
fourthnoel : I think the 29th would be the less stressful and easier date of the two. Further, I think it will be slightly easier to book than before with holiday parties, etc. Three days before Christmas is a very hectic time. I wouldn’t postpone two years, rather than book a December wedding.
Post # 4
Personally I’d wait, or I’d find a way to have a non-holiday-time wedding by hiring a wedding planner to do all the work, scaling back the wedding plans, etc. So many folks are strapped for cash in late December that it seems unfair to burden them with expensive holiday season travel. If the overwhelming majority of your guest list is local, then I suppose the 29th would be preferable to the 22nd but if guests will be traveling, both of those dates create hardships.
Post # 5
Are most of the guests local? If so, I would think the 29th would be okay. If most people are having to travel though, I would either wait or try to have it some other time (does your husband get any type of fall break or spring break?). Flights and hotels are so expensive during December and people are so cash-strapped that I think you would likely get a lot of declines from out of town guests.
Post # 6
If you have to pick one of these, I’d pick the 29th. But I think having a wedding SO close to Christmas is a huge imposition on guests. I’d avoid it if at all possible. That’s absolutely the ONLY time you guys could get married for the next two years? Does he attend school on the weekends, too?
Post # 7
fourthnoel : I would not be there on either day. Sorry but there is no way I am traveling on those days unless you’re an immediate blood relative or I can walk to your wedding.
If I had to choose I would go with 29th. Surely there is another weekend between now and Summer 2019?!
ETA: sorry if that sounded rude, it wasn’t meant to – promise!
Post # 8
fourthnoel : Why can’t you get married during the year before or after his break? A wedding is only 1 day… surely he can skip studying on a random Saturday to get married? Or choose a holiday weekend with a day off. You can simply delay your honeymoon until a break.
Post # 9
Thanks everyone for the feedback! He’ll be in dental school so he’ll be going 8 hours daily plus studying afterwards. We wanted to have it over a break so he can solely focus on wedding stuff and not have to worry about school.
We could potentially do it over his spring break, but again, he may have to be studying and doing work throughout so we were just trying to pick a time we knew he wouldn’t have to stress about school and a wedding.
Post # 10
fourthnoel : Like some other PP’s have mentioned, I think this would come down to whether most of your guests are local or not. I’ve had to attend weddings during this timeframe in the past and it’s very difficult. This is the week my family takes an annual vacation, and it usually forces me to cut my trip short, or adjust my flight plans. And while I do prioritize family and close friends, the price of everything is greatly increased during this week. Depending on your area, I’d also worry about winter weather creating additional travel difficulties. If I were in your position, I would probably wait until your fiance is out of school (and then might have some more time to help you plan!). Or, if you really want a short engagement, maybe you do a small private ceremony in December, and then host a larger party during his spring break.
In the end, do what’s right for you and your fiance! I would just keep in mind that if you’re inviting a lot of out of town guests, you’ll probably have a higher decline rate if you pick the December week.
Post # 11
i would advise against waiting 2 years. i cant speak from experience but why let 2 years fly by just because of school? i am in a similar predicament with the date dilemma. if your guests are local and christian, i would think that dec 29 would be better since the xmas chaos will have died down. it will also be an off night for vendors and not conflict with holiday parties! good luck and keep us updated!
also would mlk weekend be an option if your fiance is off on monday? very slow lomg weekend after the holidays!
Post # 12
I voted for December 29. However, you don’t have a wedding date until you have a venue reserved and signed a contract.
Post # 13
Thanks again for all the help! Just an update – we called the dental school and were able to find a week in the beginning of May! So that will be our tentative wedding date 🙂
Post # 14
I personally wouldn’t wait 2 years. I voted for December 22 because I just like that date better. Would it be feasable to do it a week earlier on December 15, if you are concerned about the holidays? I think since both are a few days away from the actual holidays, it will be fine.