Post # 1
My fiance and come from families with many woman. I have two sisters, he has two sisters and 1 step-sister. This is making choosing my bridesmaids very difficult. Here’s the deal. I lived with his sister, Stephanie for a year, and we are very close. His other sister, Lisa, lives abroad, and I love her, but only see her once in a while. His step-sister, Jessica, doesn’t really attend his family events, and I only see her once a year, once every 2 years. We aren’t at all close. For my bridal party, I want my two sisters and my two friends. As for his sisters, I don’t know. I want Stephi, but she thinks Lisa would be offended if I just asked her. I don’t really want a huge bridal party either. I’m not planning on including JEssica, but I don’t want to hurt her mother’s feelings (fiance’s stepmother), since I’m pretty close with her. HELP!
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
as your close friend, do you think stephanie would understand if you couldn’t include her, because that would mean that you would probably have to include lisa and jessica? you could give her a different special honor, like doing a reading, asking her to do a toast, help you get ready, take a formal portrait with her, etc. tough decision–good luck!
Post # 4
Thanks. I’ve been thinking about having them be honored in another way. BUt aside from speaking (and we’re not having a religious wedding, so no readings would work) I don’t know what they could actually do.
Post # 5
You can definitely have readings in a non-religious wedding, honestly…just not biblical ones. That being said, you want bridesmaids who will be supportive and happy for you, but also that you’re very comfortable with. It sounds like you’re not as close to Jessica, so maybe she’d be the one to honor in another way…