(Closed) help!! choosing groom’s ring..arguing over diamonds

posted 11 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
3330 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Have you seen the Tungsten rings that have one tiny diamond in them? Those could be a good compromise for you. Personally, I wouldn’t get Fiance an expensive band because he loses things. Also, my dad had a really nice, intricate ring and he lost it when I was little. Maybe I was just raised to not trust men with jewelry, lol. 

Post # 4
398 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My Fiance wants one with diamonds too and we’re NOT from the Jersey Shore.

I think you should let him have what he wants…it may not be as practical but if it makes him happy-that’s all that should matter!

Post # 5
361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

he’s going to be wearing it for the rest of his life just like you and your engagement ring…why wouldn’t you let him choose whatever he likes best?

Mine drives heavy equipment, he doesn’t wear the ring to work but as soon as he’s home and showered it’s on, and he wears it everywhere we go to (I honestly didn’t think he would..he had a hard time adjusting to having a ring on physically)

My DH’s band was way more expensive than my wedding band, and I also know he spent a pretty penny on my e-ring.

His – 4 diamonds, white gold:


Post # 6
1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Just like we want to like the ring we will wear for the rest of our life, men do too… he should get to choose what he likes..

Post # 7
2023 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

This is one aspect of the wedding process that’s all HIS, so I think you should let him get what he really wants. You don’t want him to be unhappy with it for the rest of his life.

And god forbid if the more expensive one gets destroyed, that’s on him, and you can say I told you so!

Post # 9
3214 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011


If it’s an issue of money, than tell him that the extra needs to come from somewhere else in your wedding budget. Or, like many women do, get the simpler ring now and upgrade on an anniversary.

I agree with everyone else that he should get the style he’s most comfortable with, but not if it blows the budget (any more than I’d recommend a woman getting the ring she wanted if it blew the budget).

Post # 10
2288 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Let him have what he wants. DH’s band cost more than mine and it was not a big deal (I promise).

Post # 11
414 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@egb: Exactly.  It’s his ring, I doubt any one of us would be too thrilled if he forced us to spend our lives wearing something we didn’t want.

Post # 12
77 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Wow wow WOW. Could you even IMAGINE the response to this thread, if this was a male talking about his woman’s engagement ring? “My girlfriend wanted this cheap ring at first, which I was fine with, then suddenly she wanted one with DIAMONDS?? An extra $200??? Is that worth making her happy?” UGH.

My man had kind of the same response to wedding ring shopping, in that he just wantted a cheap, plain wedding ring…until I took im to see some Tacoris. He was completely against diamonds in his wedding band, but the ring he decided on has 4 small diamonds, and is quite comparable in price to my 1.5ct diamond engagement ring. Guess what? I bought it for him in a heartbeat. Because he was good enough to buy me MY perfect ring, and the wedding is not just about ME, being happy, it’s about us. So it wasn’t even a consideration. Of corse I would pay a little (or even a lot) extra to make him happy. If you wouldn’t… sorry but your future may have much bigger problems than a wedding ring. :/

Post # 13
3134 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Although I see where you’re coming from, he is the one that has to wear it for the rest of his life so I think he should get what he wants. 

Post # 14
12340 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh man, that was just cruel making me flip through that magazine seeing all that gorgeous stuff and trying not to look until I got to page 22!!  Smile

I have to agree with PP.  While I can see why you think one ring is better for him than the other based on his job and stuff, he should be able to choose the ring he wants.

Post # 16
3993 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Not sure if this has been mentioned yet, but Fiance works in a VERY physical field so we 1) didn’t want to get him a precious metal (gold, white gold, etc) and are looking into getting him a tungsten carbide.

For one, they are less expensive. So if he DOES lose it or need it replaced, then it’s only $100 out of our pocket, not $250+.

Also, they are very unique looking and detailed in some instances. Which is why I’m linking this to you. Maybe he just doesn’t want what he perceives as “every man’s wedding band.” I know that is what my Fiance is saying. He wants to be manly/masculine, but he doesn’t just want a plain band. This ties into the whole “let him get what he wants.”

If it’s a budgetary issue, then I def think you guys should look into some alternatives. I think there are even some with diamonds that are reasonably priced?

Good luck. And do what is best for your budget. I am assuming you had the same mindset with your e-ring and wedding band.


Have him check out the last one on the third row?

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