(Closed) help!! choosing groom’s ring..arguing over diamonds

posted 11 years ago in Rings
Post # 33
10 posts
  • Wedding: June 2011

@sorrycharlie: If an extra 250-500 would be worth it to spend on your ring, why shouldnt you spend it on his? He’s the one thats going to have to wear it, so I dont think that everyone elses opinion should matter. I mean, he probably doesnt have much more say in the wedding planning process, let him have his way on things he does care about.

Post # 34
3015 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I can totally understand your problem with this (thank god Fiance didn’t want diamonds!), but you know him best- IF he’s really set on this being what he wants, then I really think you should just accept it & pay the extra. We had a pretty small band budget. Luckily, my FI’s only requirement for his ring was that it was “black” (he knows nothing about jewelry lol, but must have seen them somewhere), and we all know how cheap titanium and tungsten is to purchase online, so I was like YES, WE CAN SPEND THE REST ON ME! 🙂 

Edit: Sorry, just actually read through the whole thread- glad to hear it worked out for you & ended up being within budget! (and no diamonds-yay!)

Post # 35
1741 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think you should get the one he wants. If he loses/wrecks it, then you get say in the next one.

It’s not that much more, especially not for something he’ll wear forever. And it is really nice.

Post # 36
2402 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the OP not liking her guy’s ring choice. just understand that it’s her personal opinion on style and she is not trying to insult other bees who have fiancees with diamond rings.

many of us have guys who want some advice in the clothing deptartment.  one time my Fiance put on a pair of teva sandals, jeans, and a sports jacket. I pointed out that a nice jacket like that might not go with his hiking sandls, and he was like, “you’re right, how did I not see that before?” sometimes they need a little help. I ask him for his opinion on my outfits too.

I’m guessing the OP knows her man’s style, and believes that diamonds are not part of that style. he might think that’s what he wants, and she’s helping to steer him in a direction he’ll be happier with.

Post # 37
1974 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I think you should let him go with the one he wants.  If DH hadn’t listened to me and what I like in a ring, he would have gotten me something I HATED…trust me, I saw the pics.  Thankfully after showing me the pic he was like, “But I have really not idea what would you like.  Please show me???” lol  Even though you don’t like it, you still gotta go with what he wants…hopefully he did the same for you!

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