- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014
A very close friend of mine is having her first baby and I couldn’t be happier for her! I was her Maid/Matron of Honor 5 years ago when she got married and volunteered to host a shower- turned out several other ladies had also volunteered to host- the more the merrier right?! Now there are about 5 of us “co-hosting” and finding a date that works for everyone is always a challenge. One of the girls I have some bad history with (She was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in the wedding and was really angry about not being Maid/Matron of Honor and that I was picked instead so my friend made us co-MOH (which was a nightmare bc she wanted it to be a I’m closer tot he bride/ I know the bride better contest). This girl has hated me ever since even though I have always done my best to be very nice to her- I guess she still says nasty things about me behind my back YEARS later- whatever- I think that’s kinda sad).
Now we (along with some other ladies) are supposed to plan the baby shower together (yay?). We were trying to find a Saturday that worked for everyone, and found 3 good weekends that worked for everyone- I guess one of the girls has a hard time doing Saturdays. Then this girl (co-MOH) announces to the group in a group message that the shower is Sunday of memorial day weekend- apparently she thinks she gets to call all the shots? I tried to be polite and asked if that was final, as I didn’t realized the group had decided on that date. She said- yes, it’s final.
So now I guess the baby shower date is set and I’m not sure what to do. I have to fly across the country for this shower (which I am more than willing to do) but I’m slightly annoyed because plane tickets that weekend are over $100 more expensive (because of Memorial Day) and the baby shower is literally on my anniversary with Fiance (our last anniversary before the wedding). To be clear, I am not one of those crazy ladies who has to celebrate an anniversary on the exact day. But Fiance and I live 2000 miles apart and he lives a 9 hour drive from the shower location, so he would have to drive/fly there (more money) and then we would need to pay for a hotel for the weekend (more money, especially on a holiday weekend) and then we would have to eat out every meal because we wouldn’t have a kitchen (more money). From our calculations it will be about $1000 (not including my airplane ticket to the shower) to spend that weekend together in this distant city- a small farming community that is hardly a “destination.”
I’m feeling a bit torn about what to do- anyone have any advice or been in a similar situation?
ETA: We have 1,000 but we are in the middle of saving for our wedding this fall so it seems like bad timing to drop that much money on an anniversary trip, and I’m worried then we would have to put that part of the wedding on a credit card.