Post # 1
I have 4 girlfriends that I would like to have in my bridal party. Friend 1 – 3 I have been in Maid/Matron of Honor in thier weddings. I’m having a hard time deciding who I should choose as my Maid/Matron of Honor. Some help would be appreciated.
F1 – Childhood friend. Definately the friend I have known the longest. I was the Maid/Matron of Honor in her wedding. She lives a few hours away so it would be difficult for her to help out with the wedding. She is busy with her own family.
F2 – 20 Something Friend – Again I was the Maid/Matron of Honor in her wedding. She lives pretty close by but I don’t really see her that often. She is busy working 2 jobs and has a child. She is a single mom so money is a little tight for her. However, when I asked her if she would want to be in the wedding she was very excited and seemed to want to help out. Her reliability is questionable.
F3 – Late 20’s Something Friend. Again, I was the Maid/Matron of Honor in her wedding. She lives close. We see each other on a regular basis plus she has been VERY helpful with wedding planning. Very reliable friend.
F4 – Late 20’s Something Friend – We met at work and we see eachother often. We have a lot in common so we have become very close friends. Again, she is a reliable friend and very helpful. I WAS NOT a Maid/Matron of Honor in her wedding.
I am confused who I should have as my MOH? Should it be a friend I’ve known the longest or a girlfriend that I can count on?
Post # 3
I’ve have this same dilemma.
I say go for friend 3.
Post # 4
I would just not have a Maid/Matron of Honor and just have them all be BMs.
Post # 6
i would say, judging from your descriptions you are leaning towards Friend 3, go with your gut 🙂
Post # 7
If you don’t need a lot of help, or are fine with remote assistance, I’d go with friend 1. Otherwise, friend 3.
My Maid/Matron of Honor lives 8 hours away, and just had her baby. She’s been super helpful in a long distance sense (sending pictures, getting thoughts, giving me ideas, even offered to do things there and mail it to me). Then again, my only two local bridesmaids are super busy..
Post # 8
Thanks ladies! I have decided not to have a Maid/Matron of Honor since they are all special to me. I honestly, feel choosing a Maid/Matron of Honor would be a bit of a slap in the face to the other girls as since I have been Maid/Matron of Honor in 3 of my bridesmaid’s weddings. I truly feel this is the best decision for me. However, I am going to have F1 be my witness as I have known her the longest.
Post # 9
Friend number three. She’s able to be there for you more than the others (and I don’t mean it in a bad way). But you brought up some good points. The friends who have a hectic schedule just really don’t need the added stress! The girl from you work seems like she’d be able to help you, but you don’t seem to have known her for as long as #3, and you weren’t Maid/Matron of Honor for her. It’d be a nice “thank you” gesture for #3, if you were to ask her.
Post # 10
Friend 3 I would think. And I think thats who your leaning towards as well. IF the choice in uncomfortable for you.. You dont have to have a Maid/Matron of Honor just throwing that out there.
Post # 11
So I have to tell you ladies I was wrong about my Maid/Matron of Honor dilemna. I am so glad I didn’t choose 1 maid of honour. Instead made them all bridesmaids. The Friend who I ‘thought’ would of been the most helpful (Friend 3) actually is being the most difficult. How has your experiences been? Did the person who you thought would be the most helpful come thru?
Post # 12
That’s tough… maybe I wouldn’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor at all. I would be afraid it would cause drama with the other girls, especially if you were Maid/Matron of Honor in their weddings.