Post # 1
A majority of our guests are coming in from out of town so we’d like to arrange a number of other activities around the wedding to see them, etc. One of these things is an optional day after brunch for anyone who is still in town. We’ve really maxed our budget on the actual wedding so would like people to pay their own way for this. How do I word it on our wedding website so people expect this? We also need to collect RSVPs so we know how large to make the reservation—I don’t want people to think that whoever that is is hosting!
Post # 3
I would probably say something like,
For those wishing to participate, brunch will be held the following morning at blank place.
The Bride and Groom will be having brunch at such and such a place the following morning You are welcome to participate.
I wouldn’t really worry about people thinking you are paying if it is at a resuraunt. Just have people sit at separate tables and each will have their own waitress…and there will be no question who is pay once they get there. People generally come to wedding with some spending money if they are from out of town. Thats my idea. Or just discuss it with some of the guest you would like to visit with. People understand what a wedding costs. I doubt they will be upset about paying for their own brunch. Especially if it is about visiting with friend and family. The word particiapte implies paying for your own meal I tihink as opposed to join us or attend.
Post # 4
If you try to come up with wording that is more focused on "We will be having brunch at this place at this time, if you are available to join please do!" they might get the picture. Also, Mrs. Avocado had some non-hosted events for her wedding which she described to her guests in a way that they would understand that the event was not hosted. To make it low-key and less hosted, you could just insert something into Out of Town bags or put it on your website (if you have one) instead of having formal RSVPs, or send something out by email to make it more casual.
Here are the Mrs. Avocado links:
<p class=”MsoNormal”>http://www.weddingbee.com/2008/12/11/seattle-harbor-sail/ <p class=”MsoNormal”> <p class=”MsoNormal”>http://www.weddingbee.com/2008/12/10/that-wedding-whole-foods-rehearsal-ish-luncheon/
Post # 5
You could also try including a menu with prices, just to give people an idea of what they’ll be paying.
Post # 6
I woudn’t think people would assume you’re paying for a brunch TOO. hmmm. Well, I know we’re having "cake and coffee" at our house the morning after.
Post # 7
Is it something you could have the Bridal Party tell guests about (or are you putting it as an invite insert?) If it’s members of the Bridal Party spreading the word they could flat out say that it’s not hosted without any awkwardness.
I think you can also say something like, "B&G will be having brunch at <location> at <time>. If you’d like to say one last good bye, please drop by."
I have to say that in my circle most of these things are hosted by B&G (but I don’t think that’s nec.), so I do think you need to make sure it’s clear that you’re not paying.
Post # 8
Key words that almost every understands means that they are invited but its their own tab – "No Host". Just say that everyone is invited to join yall for a morning after no host brunch.
Post # 9
Thanks for all your advice–super helpful! We ended up posting this on our website:
<span style=”font-weight: bold”>Sunday Brunch at Stephanie’s<span style=”font-weight: bold”>
One of our favorite Boston restaurants is Stephanie’s, and we are planning to have one last delicious meal there before taking off on our honeymoon. If you are still in town, we’d be delighted for you to join in on brunch on Sunday morning. Brunch entrees range from $10-$20 and the link to the menu can be found here. Please email Katrina<span class=”gI”><span class=”go”> to let us know if you’d like to be added to the 11am reservation.