Post # 1
I want to start off by saying that I am SUPER greatful for all of the things that my mother is doing for me for the wedding. That being said she is driving me nuts! Every time I wnat to do something she tries to find a way to do it herself or for me to DIY it for cheaper. I have a lot of projects that I want to do and I don’t want anymore projects. Today I told her that I want to do a favor for the wedding that people would actually use or eat. So I decided that I wanted to do Caramel Apples. I looked on the Daffy Apple site and they are $1.90 each. I didn’t think that was a bad price on them and then I woudln’t have to make them. We have about 280 people that are invited to our wedding. I was reading on here how many people thought that an edible favor is the best way to go. Well I told her this on the phone and the first thing out of her mouth is that is really expensive. I know I don’t have an unlimted budget but I didn’t think that less than $2 was bad per person for a favor. Am I in the wrong thinking this way. That being said I am just going to pay for the Caramel apples myself and not involve her in them at all. I would just like to know if I am being unreasonable or if it is ok for me to think like this.
Post # 3
@Futuremrsswed: you are not being unreasonable at all. i myself love diy and even if i end up paying the same as i did in the shops, i rather want that personal touch on things.
though i really don’t think you as the bride should be the one standing in the kitchen for a day, dipping apples in candy, when you should be out there, enjoying yourself and the guests and family and really be busy with the emotional part of the whole event.
as i said, i think it is great to do things yourself but dipping 280 apples and wrapping them up individually… even if you calculate only 2min per apple, that works out to be 9 1/2 hours of preparation. plus the shopping time and mixing and heating the caramel.. that’s an easy days work for two people. if she finds some sibling/friend that is willing to do it, great. if not, 10 times rather buy them. 1.90 per favour is really not expensice at all.
whenever she should bring her next diy plan up just tell her that you really appreciate her trying to help and save money and if she can schedule it all and find someone to do it, great. but you as the bride should not plan in any of that stuff at least in the week before the wedding. there will be enough last minute things coming up anyways!! and the last two days before? don’t plan anything at all except for prettying up, pampering yourself and enjoying your best friends and family around you.
you really should be able to enjoy that day. it’s your special day!
Post # 4
I know exaclty how you feel. My mom is driving me crazy too. I can’t even stand talking to her about my wedding. She can be so negative about it.
Like you, I am so grateful for what my parents are doing for me for this wedding…that being said, it is my wedding and there are some things that I think should be my choice.
I don’t think that $1.90 is expensive for favors…grandted you are having a fairly large wedding and it does add up–but I think if you are willing to pay for that, it would be way easier than DIY.
Another thought would be having some kind of DIY edible favor station at your wedding…not sure what it could entail, but maybe it could be a compromise.