(Closed) Help!!! Destination wedding or Elopement? pros/cons!

posted 5 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Sadihab:  Have the best of both worlds…elope to a destination.  🙂

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Some people cannot imagine getting married without loved ones looking at them.

I could not imagine getting married anywhere else but a gorgeous mountain location.

However, I couldn’t have both as my family odes not travel nor do they live anywhere cool.  I opted for the destination and my family was just fine with it (actually it was preferred).  A destination elopement!  We got married on day 5 of our 11 day honeymoon.

I am sorry, I wish they were more supportive of your wedding that YOU want.  I do know that it’s usually impopssible to try to make everyone happy so it’s best to make sure YOU TWO are happy first.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My FH and I are planning a destination elopement, we told our parents, siblings, and his grandma (she is the only living grandparent on both sides). We really want them with us, but other then that we don’t care about anyone else being there.

The day is supposed to be all about the two of you, not everyone else. I think to many people forget about that. It has always been my dream to elope, and he says his aunts (all 6 of them) would be devestated… He wanted a HUGE wedding. This is our compromise. The ceremony is for us, then we can celebrate later with everyone if they are still so crabby.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We eloped just the two of us.  He doesn’t have much family left (both parents have passed and he has no cousins, aunts, uncles, etc.) but I would have loved to have my family there.  In the end it was easier for it to just be the two of us because my family lives 7 hours away.  We had a pro photographer to capture wonderful pictures and I had an album made for my mother.  When we go down at Christmas we’re taking my family out for dinner to have a belated celebration. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

A Destination Wedding is like eloping and just saying “Hey, if you want to come along, you’re welcome to do so.”That’s not selfish unless you are expecting anyone to come.

I wanted to elope, my Fiance wanted a wedding. We have settled on a Destination Wedding and have not looked back. I would reccomend it if that’s what you want.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Some family members have been very negative calling us selfish.

No, that’s not selfish. What’s selfish is family and friends expecting you to have the wedding they imagined. It’s your wedding, not theirs. Do what makes you happy! After all, in the end, the wedding is for you two, not for everyone else.

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