(Closed) Help! Destination Wedding or Not?

posted 8 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
8 posts
  • Wedding: February 2013

We are having a destination wedding in February. (By ourselves…so maybe it’s eloping) We thought about having a wedding in our hometown, but like you, the cost of everything was outrageous! After comparing the cost, we decided that one day of “entertaining” everyone else was not worth it. Sometimes weddings become a huge ordeal and not necessarily about the bride and groom. Do what you two feel comfortable with! There is no need to try and please everyone else. As long as you are happy, then it will be a beautiful memory! 🙂

Post # 4
8035 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@PrettyinPink45:  I would continue to push for a destination wedding. If your FI’s parents have a problem with it, they can cough up more cash. Simple as that.

Granted your parents probably shouldn’t have insisted on paying so much, but what’s done is done so hopefully you can help ease the financial burden a little bit.

Post # 5
258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We’re having a destination wedding in the Rarotonga, Cook Islands, in May. After going through exactly the same as what you are going through now, I would honestly have to say to go for a destination wedding. The money worries are just not worth it for one day – and worrying about catering for heaps of guests and heaps of fuss takes away the actual meaning of the day. 

Although, I will be honest, I had always imagined a massive wedding with heaps of guests and detailing to the max, but after coming to the realisation that it’s not about everyone else.. I’m now super excited about our intimate wedding with close family and friends. We’re only having about 20 guests -all paying their own way- and they’re happy because they get to share our day and get a holiday too!

I’ll share a little slice of wisdom from my mother, she told me “No one remembers the wedding cake.” Basically she meant that it doesn’t matter what you do, or where you get married, no one remembers the small details that drives brides crazy with stress and angst. So do what you want to do, have your wedding where you both want to have it, because it’s your day to remember.


Post # 7
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I did a church destination wedding – made everyone happy and no regrets!

Post # 8
501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

we had a destination wedding, otherwise we would have had over 500 people at a traditional wedding here. we LOVED it!!!!!!! we invited just the people we wanted there, closest family and friends, turned it into a week long celebration, it was amazing and felt so surreal, the surroundings were gorgeous and it definitely was once in a lifetime,  unique wedding!!

The only thing we would have changed was maybe we would have opened up the invites to all the family and friends and let them decide who wants to come or not – what stopped us doing that was that we paid for everyones accommodation when we were there (as we only had a small number of guests and wanted them to be there and we recognised that asking ppl to pay for flights, accommodation and take time off work etc is quite costly) … although everyone loved it and it was a mini hoiday for them too!!!

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