(Closed) Help! Destination wedding with no reception dinner. Is it ok?

posted 7 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 47
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

nope, it’s not OK. Unless of course you are paying for the limo, cover charge and bottle service for clubbing- in which case that is OK.

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Not okay.  My wedding was small but we did have a sit-down dinner at a nice restaurant, in their private dining room.  I don’t think a full-blown “reception” is necessary, but your guests are spending time and money to witness your special event; the least you can do is host a simple meal.

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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@KC-2722:  who says its not okay?? I think its no big deal to be honest. maybe go out and celebrate at a bar or lounge after forba few drinks! whatever you choose I highly bdoubt your guests will be angry

Post # 50
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@kthy956:  In a simple word, no. You definitely need to serve something. I absolutely understand being on a budget. Weddings (of any kind) aren’t cheap. And no, you need not go into debt over it. But at the same time, a wedding is a party that you guys are hosting. 

 

I know you are already on a tight budget but think of how much money your guests are spending to be there for your occasion. You need to provide them with something without a doubt. Even if you have very kind family and friends that won’t vent to you, guaranteed some will be rolling their eyes and the situation won’t go unnoticed. Doesn’t need to be anything fancy, but provide something!

Post # 51
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree with PP.  You cannot in good conscience ask your guests to pay for a trip to Vegas and then not even host a single meal.  If you can’t afford any sort of reception, then you should elope or have a local ceremony that does not impose as much in your guests.

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@kthy956:  Not ok.  You need to feed your guests.

Post # 53
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

This is why a friend of mine who wanted a Vegas wedding ended up inviting next to no one. When she told people about her plans tons of people offered to come to her wedding. They told her they take annual trips to Vegas and would love to be there for her wedding so they would just take their annual trip then. Since she technically didn’t invite them (no invites were sent) she figured she didn’t need to provide anything for them. Her mother insisted that if anyone came out for the wedding they HAD to feed them dinner one night at least. It turned into a huge fight and my friend ended up only going with her Fiance, their parents, and siblings. I guess I suggest keeping the list of people to something where you can afford some type of meal for everyone.

 

Post # 54
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

@LoveBugBee: this exactly!

@julies1949agree 100% if you cannot afford to feed them, consider eloping instead. 

Post # 55
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

You’re asking everyone to go to Vegas and then not feeding them? If you can’t afford to feed them, maybe you should have chosen a cheaper location. 

Post # 56
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Bee Keeper

@kthy956:  If I shelled out, and used my vacation time, to attend a destination wedding, and they didn’t provide a meal, I’d be p*ssed.

But, that’s me; only you know your guests and what they wouldn/wouldn’t be happy with.

Post # 57
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I agree that you should provide something, but as you can see there are other options besides a full sit-down dinner. We are getting married in Vegas and are having a reception/paying for dinner/drinks for our 34 guests.

Post # 58
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Buzzing bee

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@abbie017:  +1

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@Atalanta:  +1

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@kthy956:  It’s not okay to invite guests and not feed them something.  It doesn’t have to be a big, expensive meal, but to offer nothing would be very rude. 

Post # 59
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I agree with everyone else when they say you shoud at least feed them something for having to travel to Vegas for your wedding. I once had to drive a a few hours from my town to attend a wedding and there was just a cash bar but no food at the reception and you better believe I was upset! I think it would be nice of you to at least provide a casual lunch rather than nothing at all. 🙂

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