- 2 years ago
- Wedding: May 2018
I’m conflicted. I’m in a facebook group with a friend of Dh and she posted about needing help moving this Saturday and I mentioned it to Dh. He said we should help out. I know, this is what I get for mentioning it aloud. If I hadn’t mentioned it, he wouldn’t know about it and I wouldn’t have to decide if I want to go help too.
But here’s the deal, I really don’t like this friend. We have very different personalities.
She’s loud and obnoxious. The first time we met she channelled her inner Ron Swanson and called me a parasite for working for the federal government. Then the second time we met, she jumped on a table and twerked(not exactly that kind of event and she was the only one twerking at all, much less jumping on a table.)
TBH, I told Dh I didn’t like her calling me a parasite after our first meeting and that I didn’t want to hang out with her, he agreed that wasn’t a kind or respectful thing to say and she shouldnt have said it, and that we wouldn’t hang out, so those are the only times I’ve seen her outside of the wedding.
They aren’t close friends, but her family is friends with Dh’s family, so they’ve been friends forever and I didn’t really care one way or another about her and her family being invited to the wedding.
She was fine at the wedding, we just said hi and welcome and I didn’t have to talk with her the rest of the evening. She didn’t jump on any tables. She did give us a huge box of candy as a wedding gift, even though she should know he doesn’t eat candy due to his health and hasn’t had it for years now (I think I’m being a bit petty and looking for reasons to dislike her though.) We gave the candy away to his brother who has 4 kids and I think they are getting a kick out of it.
I’ll say this for her though, she has raised an awesome kid. Her daughter is 9 and absolutely adorable and creative and funny and not loud and obnoxious like her mom, so I know there’s got to be some good in her that I just haven’t given myself the chance to see because she made such a negative impression the first 2 times I saw her.
So she needs help moving this weekend and Dh wants to help out. My first inclination was to tell Dh to have fun, but that I’d probably be spending Saturday at the hospital with my grandma. However, Dh is so supportive of me and we have been driving across town several times in the past week to visit the hospital, so I’m thinking I should go and be supportive and help out, even if I really don’t like her as a person.
Maybe helping her move would allow me to see a not annoying side of her personality? I couldn’t spend all day at the hospital visiting grandma anyway, maybe a good compromise would be to help put for a couple of hours, grab a shower, and then leave for the hospital in the afternoon.
IDK, what would you do?