(Closed) Help! Did I pick the wrong dress?

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
455 posts
Helper bee

I personally like the top one better.  I like how it has lace on top but not on the bottom, and I think that you just need to trust the pros to fit it to you and you’ll look wonderful ๐Ÿ™‚ Don’t second-guess yourself, please! The top dress is definitely the one I would choose in your shoes, and you’re going to be a beautiful bride ๐Ÿ™‚  Plus, the bottom one is very “typical;” a lot of people get dresses like that now, but the one you chose is unusual and still very pretty

Post # 3
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I have to agree with the above commenter. I think once you have the dress in your correct size and you can try it on again you’ll feel much better about it. It’s really hard not to second guess yourself but you have to trust your instinct, you chose the dress you did for a reason. 

Post # 4
1164 posts
Bumble bee

I think you’re right about your back looking slightly better in the photo of the other dress but as this problem should be easily fixed by having the dress fitting properly it’s kind of irrelevant.  what does matter is that rest of the dress you chose looks better than the other dress, it’s really beautiful.  Focus on the good bits because the one bad bit won’t be there on the day when your dress fits ๐Ÿ™‚ you made a fantastic choice

Post # 5
2203 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I love the dress you chose! Don’t worry about how your back looks- when it’s in your size, it shouldn’t be a problem. I think there’s a sticky thread at the top of the dresses section of the board about how alterations make ALL the difference with the back of your dress. When you get alterations done (pretty much everyone needs some), have them follow that guide! I’m posting in my phone or I’d link it for you. 

Post # 6
2203 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

PS what I first noticed comparing the pictures was how you are totally glowing in the first picture. That is was your Fiance and guests will notice and what you will be drawn to in your pictures. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 8
931 posts
Busy bee

I LOVE your first dress and think you cannot judge how it fits when it’s clipped. since neither are the right size you can’t actually know which one gives more backage than the other. I think once your dress comes in your actual size you will see how stunning you are! Even if there’s some back bumps, don’t let that distract you from how beautiful the dress looks on you!!! 

Post # 9
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I can tell by your happy face the first picture is the one.  Once you have your size and it’s altered to you it will be perfect!

Post # 10
1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

BoilerBride101015:  I personally like the lace, BUT, my dress is lace so I may be biased. I think it flatters you more. You look beautiful in both though! 


theres a thread around here about getting rid of back fat. You can ask your seamstress to cut the back in more of a V. 


I hate my arms and usually wear cover ups so I’m probably going to get a bolero to eliminate the back and arms. 

Post # 11
2143 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

BoilerBride101015:  Im a Bonny bride as well, and I have to say I love that first dress on you! It will be miles better once it’s in your size, too. I think you mentioned that it’s a corset back? If it is, you are going to be blown away at how flattering Bonny dresses are once they corset back is pulled in and the dress fits you. Mine makes me looks tiny! Plus, the skirt on your dress is beautifuL! Don’t second guess yourself, and be sure to post pictures once your dress come in so we can see it in your size :)! 

Post # 12
7689 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

You look stunning in the first dress!  

Post # 13
1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

BoilerBride101015:  I like the top dress better, you look fab in it! But I  know what you’re saying about the back having less camoflage.  If it bothers you, have you considered a different veil, one with more coverage, more of a design on it for back coverage? 

http://veilsbyroxanne.com/?s=covers+shoulder Something like this but maybe shorter?

Post # 14
189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I did up my sister’s dress for her and she is quite thin but even she had that back fat line in the middle! I have seen many thin brides trying on dresses with the same.

So when I did up my sister’s dress (which was lace up but should be similar), I made sure I spread her skin and fat out evenly (haha sounds gross but that’s what it is), so that it didn’t all just squeeze to the middle. Have someone who cares enough to make a real effort help you out with doing up your dress.

when they do up your dress in shop they’re not going to be prodding you, they just cinch it up so it looks good in front. 

So it’s a lace up back?? that’s good because you can adjust whether you gain or lose weight and easier to spread out your skin as you lace it up.

And Yes to alterations! I’m sure someone could adjust that for you if there is anything more they can do to change how the dress sits on you.

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