(Closed) Help! Dilemma on guest list….crazy aunt!

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Can your mom keep her under control?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

@jkkramirez:  Leave it to your mother to tell her?lol…By just saying that you intended on inviting immediate family only.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

@jkkramirez:  This is a tough one because it will upset your mother.Do you need that?  To prevent drama I personally would invite her. Maybe your mother could pay for her if she is soadament on her coming.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@jkkramirez:  You need to sit down and have a heart-to-heart with your mom about this so she can quit egging your aunt on about coming to the wedding, and even perhaps break the news that she is not invited. Ask your mom to actually picture how this is going to ‘go down’ on the wedding day. Will this actually be a good thing to have her there or is it just going to add unwanted stress?

I have an aunt/uncle that our family just does not get along with, and they are not invited to the wedding. My mom already broke the news to my aunt (mom’s sister) and while my aunt seemed really hurt, she got the message. 

I don’t understand why some people think that a wedding is the time to have a big old family reunion and mend fences with broken relationships. If you have good relationships with your family members, then by all means, bring on the reunion. But if there is bad blood there, then a wedding is no place to try to fix it.. ugh!!!!

Sorry I got off on a tangent, but I just wanted to say that I feel for you… hope your mom comes around and realizes it’s a bad plan to have her there – maybe arrange for a “girls’ weekend” with her later in the year to try to ‘fix’ the relationship??

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@jkkramirez:  Then maybe a sit-down with your aunt is warranted too? I know she’s out of town.. maybe a Skype call so you can actually see each other and talk? I guess you’d just have to try to reason with her and explain that your wedding is not a time when you want to have to worry about family stress, and you would love it if she could come to XYZ instead…  🙂

If she thinks you’re just dodging her, then her feelings will probably get hurt.. or she’ll think you’re not serious about her not coming and she will crash it anyway..

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