- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
It’s been so long since I posted last and now it’s a little under a month before my big day. Things are coming along and we are just trying to get through everything….until this past Friday.
My fiance’s sister has made some pretty bad choices in her life and we are not having her as a bridesmaid. Her daughter who is 2, is a flower girl. We absolutley adore her. She has had a rough 2 years because of her mom’s choices. Fiance’s sister had another child, a son, this past December. Baby daddy is a mess and very volatile, very inappropriate and a huge cause for concern. In any event, the sister has basically admitted to having no patience with her daughter. NONE! Screams and yells at her, swears at her, doesn’t haven enough money for diapers, on state assistance, we suspect she has hit her as well. We have contacted CPS and they do not do anything. His sister lives between her dad’s house and the messed up boyfriend and his parents in a 2 bedroom low income home.
So…fast forward to this past thursday. We were reading facebook and she had posted a status about not having patience with her daughter and being at her wit’s end. So I asked her stepmom if everything was ok and she said and filled me in on how bad things were. Well my fiance secretly sent his sister a long text of how he felt about her and her parenting which she woke up to at 7am the following morning. She flipped out. He had told her she was a bad mom, abusive, and neglectful. ALL THINGS THE WHOLE FAMILY FEELS. Well she screamed at him, said he was dead to her, and that we would never see our niece again adn that she was out of the wedding.
So here we are, one flower girl down, and his sister not coming to the wedding. I’m disappointed that this is the route she is taking, but I do want her and our niece at the wedding. I also want our niece in the wedding. I had a breakdown because things do not need to be this hard. We also found out that our cousin (fiances side) was diagnosed with a brain tumor at 29 weeks pregnant. Brain tumor is out and she is doing quite well. So the past couple days have been hell.
I do not know what to do. I’ve blown up and cried to my fiances mom and she understands, but this whole situation sucks. I’m thinking will this matter down the road? while she is a crummy parent, her child does not need to suffer because her mother sucks, ya kno? I also don’t want to look at pics down the line and she not be in them. What do I do? I started writing his sister just sharing my feelings. It’s not really a plea to have her reconsider, but kind of a letter saying this effects your daughter, this effects your family, this effects your parents, the people who care for your daughter, don’t make her suffer because you are angry.
I started a letter, but it’s not flowing like I thought it was going to. I just want some guidance…advice..please?