Post # 1
I fell in love with a beautiful dress, but now I’m having doubts about the cost. I tried on another lovely option –for half the price — but it’s not as ‘me’ as the dress I want.
I told myself I would splurge (within reason) if I found the right dress, but now I keep thinking of all the things we COULD buy with that money instead (a kickass honeymoon, or a wedding video …or even 3 months rent).
Will I regret not getting the dress I REALLY want? Or will I be happier saving money in the long run? Did you splurge on your dress, and if so, was it worth it?
Any advice is much appreciated!
Post # 2
Me personally, i would get the less expensive dress. Money is money, and money is important! It’s a dress you are wearing once, sure its beautiful but heck a honeymoon, or even a wedding video is just as beautiful!
Whats the price difference between the two?
Post # 3
What’s your dress budget? And what was the dress brand/style that you liked? There are many knowledgeable bees on here, so I’m sure someone can volunteer a style similar to the one you loved.
I think you should get a dress that is “you.” However, I don’t believe in getting an expensive dress if it’s something you will feel guilty over. I stayed within my dress budget, however, I don’t know if it was considered splurging or not to you, since everyone has their own opinion of what a splurge is. Anything over $50 for an outfit I can only wear one time is a splurge in my book.
Anyways, I would rather put more money towards the honeymoon than a dress.
Post # 4
dojx: you are right, it doesn’t have to be this exact dress. If anyone can find something similar for $2000 or less that would be amazing!
Here is the dress I LOVE — Watters Santina Gown:
Post # 5
l.bee: I tried this dress on and loved it (though I ended up going with a different dress by the same designer). It has a similar feel/look to the one you posted, and is marked down right now to just under $2000: http://www.leannemarshall.com/products/josephine-gown.html
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2016 - Trilogy Golf Course at Glen Ivy
l.bee: This is beautiful! If it was me, I would just get the dress I wanted if i’m still thinking about it after weeks. The way I see it, I only plan on getting marry once so why not spoil yourself. You can always make cuts somewhere else. Maybe instead of chiavari chairs just have regular chairs.
Post # 7
I went ahead and bought the dress I wanted over a decent free dress. It was more than I wanted to spend and yet cheaper than retail since I bought the dress brand new from someone who canceled her wedding. It still had tags on it. While I am excited to have the dress… I am not going to lie but I still have lingering thoughts about how that money could have been spent on something else more important or left in the bank to watch my balance grow since it is an item I am only wearing for a few hours. Not to mention, I may incure alternation charges if needed which adds to the overall dress cost.
Post # 8
BHLDN has some gorgeous gowns that are under 2k. This one is similar in style http://www.bhldn.com/shop-the-bride-wedding-dresses/tamsin-gown-ivory/productoptionids/f314d873-ef50-4ba8-88ab-7e634f1f2445
This one is similar with the illusion lace and color http://www.bhldn.com/shop-the-bride-wedding-dresses/vivienne-gown/productoptionids/d9b2029e-944d-4588-a578-8fa2b9b2ba8d
I’ve been considering getting a BHLDN gown for a second dress to wear for the reception. I think they are gorgeous!
That being said, if you fell in love with a gown, then it will be hard for any other dress to live up to it. Personally, I would say go with the one you love otherwise you might have regret.
Post # 9
It really depends on your finances. For me, I had a budget for my dress and I went wayyy over when I realized that for the level of fabric quality etc I was looking for I HAD to spend more… I’m so glad I did!
Post # 10
l.bee that is BEAUTIFUL!!! Watters makes some great stuff!
To avoid the temptation, I went in to the salon and told them my budget and they only showed me dresses that were max. $500 over. I actually ended up coming in about $100 under budget! I agree with finding a dress that is you, also. But you need to feel comfortable with the price tag.
My tummy did back flips for a pair of shoes I wanted, but I knew they’d never be seen as they’d be under my dress. They were quite expensive and as much as I tried to rationalize it (I’ll dye them after, I’ll totally wear them again..etc.), I just couldn’t do it.
I agree with dojx, I keep reminding myself it’s one day, so keep it reasonable. 🙂 (that’s just me though)
Have you checked out BHLDN before? What about these?:
Post # 11
I honestly don’t think spending over your budget is worth it for a dress you’ll wear once. like others said, you could probably find something that’s “you” for less, instead of compromising and wearing something you don’t love. The BHLDN ideas are great!
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2013 - Tuscan farmhouse and vineyard
If you love the Watters dress maybe you could wait a little and look for an ‘off the rack’, sample or preloved loved gown. Same dress, less money. Some gowns likely look as good as new. I bought my Lazaro ‘preloved’ as I wasn’t willing to pay thousands. Best decision I made. Depends if you need to buy a dress soon or can bide your time for the one you want.
Post # 13
I spent more on my dress and I’m glad I did.
Post # 14
I think it would be smarter to buy the dress you actually want.
Yes, you’ll save money by buying a less expensive dress, but is that money you save worth the regret of wearing a dress you don’t really like on your wedding day? I don’t think it is. If a few hundred dollars will ensure your satisfaction, spending the money is a good idea.
Post # 15
If you are savvy about it, you can definitely have your cake and eat it too. You could consider buying a sample or pre-loved dress, buying the dress new and offering it for pre-sale (offer it for sale after the wedding before you’ve even worn it), or planning to sell it after the wedding.
I bought a VW sample dress and it rocks my world. For the record, I had previously purchased a cheaper, budget-friendly dress but I just couldn’t get excited about it. It was pretty, but the fabric felt so hot and the fit was average. Generally with wedding dresses, you get what you pay for!