(Closed) HELP!!! Dress shopping anxiety and bridesmaids power struggle?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

i feel for you, i have a couple of those in my Bridal Party myself…

i would go to the shop yourself first, select a specific number of dresses in the colors/styles you like and make it clear to the consultant that when you arrive with your girls, these are the only choices. she should be able to help rein the girls in!


Post # 4
4913 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

What is your vision?

If your vision is that all girls wear the same exact dress in the same exact color, then what I would recommend is not letting anyone voice their opinions and start off by not asking them.

If you’re willing to relinquish some control, then set boundaries.  If what you want is the same fabric and color, but you’re willing to let them pick their own dress, I would say “You get to pick a dress by X designer, in X color, in X fabric.” 

I would just suggest standing your ground and being firm with your words.  If it gets out of hand, remind the girls that this is your wedding and when it comes time for their wedding, they will have as much or as little say as they choose to have. 

Hopefully the bridal consultant will be able to help you!!

Post # 5
31 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

@5thgradeteacher:  Remember – this is your wedding! I had a little drama at the beginning, but I’m not sure if it was the glass of wine I was sipping or me just being fed up. But, something had to give!  Everyone was put in their place when I decided (without them) what they were going to wear.

The hardest thing is asking for input, especially when your wedding is coming up.

Opinions are great, but keep in mind…YOU ARE THE BRIDE Laughing

Post # 6
4913 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I thought about this a little bit more.  I think having a conversation with your BMs to let them know what your vision is beforehand might help.  This way, they will know in advance where this is headed. 

Post # 7
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think you need to decide exactly what your vision is.  Pick out material, style, length, color and start there.  I would pick a back up idea in case your first plan doenst look right on your girls.  I think most times bridesmaids take over when the bride isnt sure what she wants.  Do your research first so your confident in what you want. 

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