- 2 years ago
I used to have an account but deleted it a while back, some back story : I’m 26, live in the UK. I have only ever been in 2 relationships in my life, both lasting just less than 6 months, I have now been single for offically almost 2 years but I tend to think more 1 as I continued to go back to my ex whenever he wanted me to for about a year until last March when I said enough was enough (he was my first love, I was foolish and naive when I met him at 24 and continued to believe we would get back together) Fast forward a year till now, I have only met 2 guys who ive connected with but both have only been after one thing (I can tell straight away and refuse to sleep with men who are using me) I was fine with being single although haven’t had sex in over a year (yikes) but was happy with the way my life was going, currently studying for my masters in teaching, have good friends, family and own my own flat for the past 2 years. That was until Christmas and ever since then I have felt rubbish about my single situation, im the only single person left in my very big family, it was so awkward as I think my extended family thing im odd for not having someone or ever bringing anyone to family events. My mum has always been my number 1 supporter but even I think she’s starting to doubts I’ll get a long term boyfriend at this stage. To make matters worse 2 long term single friends met people over the last month and 1 has even taken them to meet family etc (im happy for them but just wondering when me).
I thought it’s time to be a bit proactive and changed my age range on tinder to be a bit more flexible (I live in a city where people tend to just visit so there isn’t that many men around that are planning on staying for longer than a weekend) so figured it wouldn’t hurt to date a little younger. I tend to think im quite grown up and therefore have only looked to date people older than me until this week…
Im going on a date with a guy tonight who is 25, Im really nervous! I worry so much that i’ll just be a failure again to myself (and my family, I know how much they would like me to meet someone) and struggle with being single for sooo long!
Can you guys give me any advice to calm my nerves for tonight? Any dating advice or advice about being single for a while? Happy to hear your stories and thoughts 🙂