Post # 1
I recently got engaged. I have two sisters, one older and one younger. My older sister has been seeing her boyfriend for approximately 7 months. This week my sister is getting engaged (he told me it will be Friday or Saturday) This will be his third or fourth marriage and he just turned 30! He is a nice guy, but something is just “off”. I really think she is pushing the engagement because her younger sister (who has been with the same guy for almost three years) is getting married. Also, she is not going to be the center of attention for a change….
OK rant over…. BUT now do I throw her an engagment party even though I do not agree with her being engaged so soon or her reasoning for it? Do I still throw her a party even though she said she planned a party for me and then just never followed through?
What do I do????
Post # 3
It’s up to you on whether you want to throw her a party, but I wouldn’t just sit back and protest her wedding. To tell you the truth, I wasn’t a huge fan of my BIL before my sister married him. Now that I know him better, I know what an awesome guy he is. I would do everything you can to support your sister, because it will forever affect your relationship if you’re don’t.
Post # 4
I’d say be genuinely happy for them, but I wouldn’t go out of my way to throw a party. Divorce happens, but most (not all) people married 3+ times, well, there’s a reason for it. A few of my family members, friends, and in-laws have had more than three marriages and they all have their things. Your sister obviously knows what she’s doing or her soon to be fiance has worked through his issues/has had really bad luck.
Post # 5
I don’t see why you would need to throw her a party, but I also wouldn’t say anything to her about him being ‘off’. Chances are, she’s probably already thought about that (I know I certainly would if my bf was under 30 and on this 4th marriage!).
Maybe he just decided it was time and your engagement gave him a little push. Who knows.
I would congratulate her, but wouldn’t feel like I had to throw a party.
Post # 6
I dont really thinkg you need to do anything in this situation