Post # 1
This is the silliest question, but I figured y’all were the best to ask and would have the best advice. I am 31 and returning to college tomorrow after being out for 11 years. We just went to visit my parents and my mom saw my wedding set (upgrade) for the first time, been married over 8 years. She told me I shouldn’t wear my engagement ring to class, to make me a target ( robbery) or a professor thinking “she doesn’t need this class” or jealousy! All of this was hard to hear because I’m not a pretentious person. I will say my engagement ring is pretty blingy, but I love it and I love what it means to me.
So my question is, is my mom right and leave the ring at home?
*I have a qalo I wear for working out and the lake I can wear, and just my wedding band once it is resized!
Includig a pic so can best answer!
Post # 2
I wouldnt worry about it. Coming from a recent college grad, students and professors probably wont even notice. And even if they did notice, they probably wouldnt really care since you are several years older than them(compared to most students in the class). I say wear it!
Post # 3
I’m in the same situation as you! I just turned 30 and returning to university this Tuesday (as I have Tuesdays and Thursdays classes). I don’t have my ring yet because waiting for it to be set but was thinking about this. I haven’t decided if I will or will wear it so I’m interested in what other bees have to say.
Post # 4
It depends where you live. I live in an area where my 3ct center stone is the lower end of rings here.
Post # 5
Wear it, getting robbed on a college campus is pretty slim. I wear a sizable rock and I’ve been to some very shady places with it. Also if a professor thinks you don’t need the class then that is their problem, not yours-just do your best
Post # 6
Wear it – get insurance if you don’t have it. We can’t kive our lives anticipating how others might react to us, and paranoia hinders joy.
Post # 7
I think your mother’s advice sounds like outdated nonsense across the board. Like when my grandmother told me “Ladies don’t run.”
Most people aren’t going to be paying attention to your ring. And what is a faculty member going to do if they assume you don’t actually need the class? Not grade your work? And who cares if someone else is salty because of your ring?
Wear your ring. Enjoy your classes and your return to college. I’ve noticed that folks who return to school having had some life experience often make great students because they’ve got their priorities clear and know themselves better.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone! I think my mom and husband just don’t want anything to get in the way of me succeeding since I have waited so long to go back to school! Everyone’s advice has been great! I know this is so silly!
Post # 9
Professors don’t give a shit. Actually very few people will give a shit, but professors especially don’t have time for that shit. The school cares that you paid your tuition. Your professors care that you show up and do the work. Your classmates care that you don’t flake out on group projects. That’s it. No one has the time or inkling to care about anything you wear on your body.
As for wearing it on campus – if you wear your ring other places, I don’t know why you wouldn’t wear it on campus.
Post # 10
georgiapeach11 : Congrats on returning to school!
I would wear it. College students come from all walks of life. Some are wealthy, some are poor, and most are in between. No professor is going to think a student doesn’t need to be at school, just because of jewelry.
I would also think the risk of theft is quite low as long as you don’t take it off.
Post # 11
Rock it! And good for you going back to school. I just turned 36 and have recently been considering it (I never went to college after high school) but to be honest…..I’m terrified. You are amazing in my book!
Post # 12
michellelynn9175 : You are never to old! Thanks for your encouragement! I’m terrified and excited all at the same time!
Post # 13
I’m not a professor, but I teach college classes at the university here. I can tell you that exactly 0% of my thought process in regards to evaluating students has relied on what they wear on their hands. To be honest, I can’t even tell you if any of them have ever worn wedding or engagement rings. The only times I notice their hands are when they’re up in the air asking a question.
As for theft, you’re much more likely to get your laptop stolen on a college campus than a ring.
Post # 14
I can’t imagine how it would affect your grades and unless your campus is in some super bad neighborhood, I don’t see how it would make you a target for theft. I think you mom is worrying too much about it.
Post # 15
I was engaged when I was in college at the age of 20 and wore my ring.
The only person who seemed to notice was the NP at the student health center who asked while doing my intake paperwork, “What’s your relationship status? Oh, nevermind, I see a ring, I guess you are engaged.” That’s literally it.
Nice ring btw. 🙂