(Closed) Help! Etiquette when it comes to telling your photographer what you want?

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

This is a hard one. It’s kind of like asking someone to be a different person. Just because its what you like doesn’t mean it’s what he can/wants to do. It may be best simply to hire a different photographer. You can certainly approach him and let him know what you’re looking for. He might be open to it but if you were my client I’d at best find a compromise. Perhaps edit a few in the style you want. if hes truly a profesional photographer then hes spent years establishing and peferecting his style. But if you are friends he may be more willing to work with you on that. Best of luck! 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Lashmont:  i agree.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

@bruinchick4:  i think that asking for a few specific photos that you want is ok (eg: can you please get a shot of my ring here, can you please get a shot of me with my aunt etc) but expecting a photographer to mimic a shooting style that is not theirs is tricky. In that case I would maybe hire someone else So you aren’t disappointed with the final product.

 

 

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I am glad you posted this! I thought photography was a service, and had no idea that there were so many etiquette rules before Wedding Bee. Still trying to figure it out. I feel like I have to walk on eggshells! LOL.

No great advice, just glad you posted this for the rest of us Smile

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

I just spoke to my photographer today and he wanted me to send him photo samples I liked so he can take more of those types.  I don’t see any reason why you can’t tell your photog what you want. 

Post # 7
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2082 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@bruinchick4:  I don’t think it’s rude to show him ideas of what you like at all. I would definately recommend doing that.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@rusticbee2014:  no need to walk on egg shells!:) Most photographers are rather normal and friendly people:)  There really are two different kinds of photographers. There are photographers who do provide a service and really don’t have a personal vision. They will shoot in any style, do any editing and shoot any type of pose a client wants. Normally they don’t excel at any of those some do a good job, some do an okay job but very few do a stellar job. It’s kind of like the saying ” jack of all trades, master of none”. Then there are photographers who are artists available for commission. They have an established style of posing, editing etc. When you hire this type of photographer it is because you love what they are doing and you picture yourself in their images. These photographers are those that excel in their field. They create original and exiting work. Asking a creative, talented photographer to be a copycat is painful. It’s really just as easy as picking a photographer who is doing work that you like and who has a personality you enjoy and trusting them from there. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

@Lashmont:  Ah, that makes sense. I am considering a photographer because I LOVE his super dramatic pictures, so I guess that wouldn’t come up.LOL.

 

So back to OP, which kind of photographer do you think you have?

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

@bruinchick4:  Wow i just saw the link to your e-pics and I know you have heard this a ton but they are so pretty! Maybe you can just ask for more close-ups? How close of friends are you?

Post # 12
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344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@rusticbee2014:  see now if you asked him to take a whole bunch of boring, cliche shots then there’d probably be a problem. If you’re already excited for what he does, you’ve booked the right person!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Some photography is a service… especially if you go for a company that has several photographers working for them. But independant photographers are often artists, and have particular point of view and style they work in. 

 

I have to friends that are independant photographers and while both talented their work is easily identifiable as “theirs” because of the way they shoot and edit.

 

Like a fashion designer or a painter.

 

ETA: Or what Lashmont said a few posts up… I posted before I read…

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@bruinchick4:  some of the softness you’re looking for is either a choice in film (most of the most famous “soft” style photogs like Jose Villa, Elisabeth Messina all use film), or Photoshop post processing methods (there are some actions that will push an image to look a certain way), and technique for capturing light, as well as venue and weather (I came from the Northeast where it is definitely harder to get soft and romantic when you have crappy weather and very urban surroundings in the cities). However, a photographer, especially a good one, sees themselves as an artist and provide you with their vision, and hoped that you would have hired them for that vision.

 

Your photographer, based on what I see in your engagement photos, has a very particular style – photojournalism. If they are willing to adapt, maybe you can get the soft romantic style. if they’re set though, I’m not sure how great a chance you’d have at attaining the photographs you want. I think you’re stuck in an unfortunate situation in that it doesn’t look like you really like the style of your photographer, and if he is top notch (I personally LOVE the photojournalistic style, soft/romantic is not me at all), it is unlikely you can expect him to realistically cahnge. Just setting expectations that you may have a chance, you may not.

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