- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Hi Bees, I need your help!!
I had originally wanted the son of one of my family friends (let’s just say his name is Freddie) to be our ringbearer. So, I emailed his mother, but it was right around the time when her husband was going through chemotherapy, so she obviously had far bigger things on her mind, and she never got back to me. Tragically, Freddie’s dad passed away.
Meanwhile, we had asked the son of another of our family friends (let’s call him Jamie) to be the ringbearer. I didn’t want to bother Freddie’s mom more b/c she had a funeral etc. to deal with, and nevermind the unthinkable personal mourning. My mom took Jamie to get his tux fitted and everything, and I thought we were all set.
BUT just yesterday, less than 2 weeks before the wedding, Freddie’s mom emailed me back and says “do you still want him to be ringbearer?” And she sent a photo of the cute outfit she got him.
I would be fine with the idea of having 2 ringbearers – would love to give Freddie a fun opportunity to be in the spotlight after he’s had to go through so much with losing his father. However, I hate to be picky about something like this, but Jamie’s tux will perfectly match the groomsmen’s, and Freddie will look completely out of place with the wedding party. It’s now too late to get him a tux, and I also don’t want to ask his mom to pay for it either. So, now I’m scrambling to find something else for him to do.
My mom said she went to a wedding once where instead of a flower girl, a little boy came out holding a sign that said “Here comes the bride”. We also don’t have a flower girl, so maybe that would work…but it also seems a little tacky?
We already have 2 adult ushers, and I don’t think the usher role is very appealing for a young boy. These kids are both around 8-10 years old.
What do I have Freddie do!?! Should I just tell his mom no thanks, we’re all set? Should I have him hold up that sign? Ahhh….