(Closed) Help EXTREMELY pressured into marriage in under 3 months

posted 8 months ago in Relationships
Post # 31
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2029

He sounds controlling and manipulative, h isn’t the right guy.  I always wanted to get married and met a guy was already mentioning together forever after 2 weeks!  So creepy and I felt pressure just dating him.  I broke up w/him and met my fiance soon after.  I want to get married now.  If something feels wrong to you, there is something wrong.

Post # 32
846 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey

I’m coming from a conservative place and both of our families wouldn’t approve premarital living together and me and my fiance are well aware that we have to be married to see each other whenever we can and have all types of freedom in terms of intimacy. This however, has never made marriage something to get done quickly.

Your boyfriend is a big NO. Has everything been handed to him easily so far? One has to earn love and loyalty. I know many forced marriages that went very very wrong. 

Post # 33
8830 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

helpmeout :  He is manipulative and controlling and he is not going to change. You need to leave this relationship completely. More time is not going to make him better. He will use it to either A) escalate his pressure tactics even further, or B) pretend to change in order to lull you into a false security until after you’re married and under his and his family’s thumb. You don’t want either of these to happen, so just dump him completely and don’t look back. He is bad news and you don’t owe him anything. Get out now.

Post # 35
8830 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

helpmeout :  The sexual issues are just one more bad sign out of many many bad signs. If it was JUST this sexual question, it would probably be worth trying to get to the bottom of it. But with all the other problems and red flags, the sex thing is almost irrelevent. Even if it was suddenly fixed, you still have all this other stuff to deal with. It’s not worth it. None of it is. You will find a guy who does not have all these problems, and who you will WANT to marry. Don’t waste any more time with this one.

Post # 37
9854 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Run girl, run!

Post # 38
2 posts

Oops, posted on wrong discussion. 


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