Post # 1
A family member was very excited when I told her it would be an outdoor wedding, so much so that she started planning all the barbecue-esque details that will NOT be a part of the big day. Flip flop basket? No thank you. Mason jars are adorable, just not for this wedding. I’m not going for casual rustic. This person has even gone so far as to spread the word to the family that this will be a ‘sandals’ ‘laid back’ ‘stripped down’ wedding. One cousin even remarked that he was excited to wear shorts. Ugh.
How can I successfully correct this misinterpretation of “outdoor” so that everyone knows we are going for a sophisticated, semi-formal evening? I’m not trying to sound uptight. I know what the guests wear is not a vital part of my marriage, but I want classy photos where everyone looks their best.
Should I put this in the invitation? Email people? Ask the family member to change her tune?
Thanks, Bees. Always a big help!
Post # 3
Oh my, what a headache and something Im sure you didn’t need during the planning process. Im not sure my suggestion will be that helpful, but I think stating “semi-formal” on your ivitation may be a good start. Hope your able to turn things around and get the right info out there. Have you tried talking to this family member? Maybe giving her a little more info on what your plans actually are will help redirect her and then she can get the correct information to everyone as it seems shes good at spreading the word. Good luck!! 🙂
Post # 4
@AndcjSaid: Is the date you posted correct? I believe you have time to spread the word about the appropiate dress code. I’m so sorry this happened. Perhaps set the semi-formal mood on your Save-The-Date Cards and imply on your wedding website in addition to letting your mom and Bridal Party know and also having them spread the word. In addition to all that yes, hint it on your invitations. I’m worried about this as well. I don’t think anyone knows we are having an outdoor wedding (everyone in our circle EXPECTS a church ceremony) in November so I hope they dress accordingly!
Post # 5
I would enlist in your parents and bridal party to spread the word that relatives are being misinformed and that it won’t be a casual wedding. I would also put something about suggested attire on the guest information section of your wedding website, if you have one. Finally, get a member of your immediate family to set this person straight about the tone of your party.