Post # 1
My Fiance and I have been together for over 8 years. We have lived together finacially on our own for three of the 8 years so far. We both have full time jobs and responsibilities that we fullfill every day. I am only 22 and he is only 24, but we feel grounded in our relationship and love each other very much. Recently on a beach vacation, we decided to get married. My Fiance went to my parents to ask for my hand (as a courteousy, we are southern after all) and my parents strictly said no. Since then I have secertly been planning and budgeting my wedding by myself. It really hurts that they do not want to take part in this special day between my Fiance and I. Im not sure how to handle the situation since everytime I say wedding to my mom, she freaks! For instance, she caught me looking at Vera Wang bridal for Christmas and I had asked for some crystal flutes for under the tree. Instead, I was given Vera Wang Princess perfume- complete with rhinestone tiara. I love the perfume- but really? I want bridal, I get princess.
I need her to come around,
Post # 3
Have you spoken to her about why she objects?
Post # 4
Have you talked to your family to find out why they are against you getting married? It is because of your age or something else? You aren’t living at home anymore, I don’t see why they are still treating you like a child.
Post # 5
I am sorry you are going through this. It just doesn’t make sense. You two can support yourselves and are old enough (my dh and I were 22 and 24 when we got engaged)
Is there a reason they are saying no? Do they have an issue with your FI? I would suggest talking to your parents and finding out the real issue,
Post # 6
when they said no to your Fiance did they say anything specific as they had concerns about schooling or the fact that hes a drug selling bikie who keeps women locked up in the basement and for some reason youre not aware of this?
Post # 7
i would want to know their reasoning – seems like you have proved to them that your relationship is strong and you dont depend on them for financial help anymore – i dont see the big deal – so you need to figure out what the “big dea” is for your family and address if from there.
Poor Fiance – i would freak if my parents told him no.
Post # 8
You have obviously demonstrated that you are responsible and in love. It seems reasonable to question your parents about their diapproval.
Best of luck!