(Closed) Help! Family wedding Issues

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Why were you invited the the rehearsal dinner anyways? I think it is a nice gesture, but since you are not in the wedding (and because of all the other reasons you have listed above) you should not feel obligated to go.

If it were in town and you didn’t have to drive an hour and take time off, I would say go. But simply tell your mom and aunt that you really cannot afford the extra time off (or your boss won’t let you take it) and as much as you would like to be there, it simply will not be possible. Thank them for the invite and tell them how much you are looking forward to the wedding!

Post # 4
2640 posts
Sugar bee

If the cue from your mom is that going would show support and perhaps smooth some things over, I would really try to go.  If you don’t go, do you think your cousin will be upset, "another iron to add to the fire"? 

Post # 5
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m confused, but why were you invited??? Cousins don’t typically go to the rehearsal dinner unless they’re in the wedding party. Maybe he just invited you out of obligation.

Just tell them that you can’t possibly take another night off work, but that you can’t wait to see him on his big day! Surely he’ll understand. I can’t imagine it’ll be a big deal

Post # 6
157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I say if you can’t go then just come up with a really good excuse. Claim a last minute planning crisis involving a vendor you have to meet with. Or say on Wednesday that you have a stomach flu, that way you could be fully ‘recovered’ by the wedding Saturday.

Post # 7
2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

@Rose999~ Would you want somebody to do that to you? That is so rude! They’ll be out the money for her food probably and a couple doesn’t need late minute issues right before their wedding.


I would go and see if you can share a room with your mother?  

Post # 8
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I would go if i were you. You’ll probably have a blast once you get there and forget about the drive. Plus, who doesn’t love a great meal with the family?

Post # 9
237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Try Priceline (name your own price) for a cheap hotel room. I know wedding planning is expensive, but if you can get a good deal on the room it would probably work out better financially than the gas you’d use to get back and forth twice. I got a room for $45 when I used it recently.

Also, I would think someone in the family might be able to put you up?

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