Post # 1
Ok, so, I’m stuck in a little bit of a strange position…My cousin (guy) is getting married two weeks before I am. He and his fiancee got engaged about a month before me and my fiancee did. I think he is a little miffed about the fact that we are getting married so close to his wedding date but that’s a different story all together.
Here’s my dilemma: His wedding is about an hour away from my house. I will be attending the wedding but I (and my fiancee) have been invited to the rehearsal dinner also. That would mean I would have to drive an hour there and an hour back on Friday and then do the same on Saturday because I don’t have the money to spend on a hotel room right now when I would like to spend my money on my own wedding! I am not in my cousin’s wedding so, I feel like #1 I don’t need to be getting off of work early to be there because I have to take a week off 2 weeks later for my honeymoon AND #2 I have my own stress that I am going through that is enough without adding the craziness of trying to bust my tail to the rehearsal dinner.
My mom is really pushing me to be there. She’s not telling me what to do but I’m getting the pressure. Frankly, I just don’t want to stress myself out even more.
Should I suck it up and go or what? How do I explain it to my aunt as to why I can’t come?
Post # 3
Why were you invited the the rehearsal dinner anyways? I think it is a nice gesture, but since you are not in the wedding (and because of all the other reasons you have listed above) you should not feel obligated to go.
If it were in town and you didn’t have to drive an hour and take time off, I would say go. But simply tell your mom and aunt that you really cannot afford the extra time off (or your boss won’t let you take it) and as much as you would like to be there, it simply will not be possible. Thank them for the invite and tell them how much you are looking forward to the wedding!
Post # 4
If the cue from your mom is that going would show support and perhaps smooth some things over, I would really try to go. If you don’t go, do you think your cousin will be upset, "another iron to add to the fire"?
Post # 5
I’m confused, but why were you invited??? Cousins don’t typically go to the rehearsal dinner unless they’re in the wedding party. Maybe he just invited you out of obligation.
Just tell them that you can’t possibly take another night off work, but that you can’t wait to see him on his big day! Surely he’ll understand. I can’t imagine it’ll be a big deal
Post # 6
I say if you can’t go then just come up with a really good excuse. Claim a last minute planning crisis involving a vendor you have to meet with. Or say on Wednesday that you have a stomach flu, that way you could be fully ‘recovered’ by the wedding Saturday.
Post # 7
@Rose999~ Would you want somebody to do that to you? That is so rude! They’ll be out the money for her food probably and a couple doesn’t need late minute issues right before their wedding.
I would go and see if you can share a room with your mother?
Post # 8
I would go if i were you. You’ll probably have a blast once you get there and forget about the drive. Plus, who doesn’t love a great meal with the family?
Post # 9
Try Priceline (name your own price) for a cheap hotel room. I know wedding planning is expensive, but if you can get a good deal on the room it would probably work out better financially than the gas you’d use to get back and forth twice. I got a room for $45 when I used it recently.
Also, I would think someone in the family might be able to put you up?