(Closed) HELP! Fear of public speaking!!

posted 6 years ago in College
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You need to find your “CEO Mode”  Dress powerfully, throw your shoulders back, and take charge.  Those people are there to hear what you have to say and you are in charge of the situation and you need to remember that and own it!   That is what I do, and it always works for me.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I have a hard time with this too. Normally, I make an outline of everything I want to say and keep it to use as notes. Also, it can help to find a person or object towards the center of the room and focus on that so you don’t notice the room full of people.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@smiles731: what is the occasion for the public speaking?  I was on the speech team back in high school (nerdy, I know, but I loved it!)

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@smiles731: So do you feel that you can comfortably convey your information as long as you don’t get that panic/tense-up moment? If you start out confident, try to ride it. Don’t look in their eyes or at their face, but the general ‘forehead/between the eyes’ glance. It looks like you’re speaking to them specifically, but really, you’re not making yourself nervous with the eye contact. 

I’d also scan the back wall right above head level, so it looks like you’re looking through the whole room, left to right. Same with the front foreheads, so it looks like you’ve made eye contact with the whole room. Just remember that no one is out to make you nervous, and they’re all very likely happy that you’re speaking rather than them, so don’t let that get to you. You can do it πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@smiles731: And laugh off a mess up (I mean, not in serious discussions like abortion, murder, etc) but if you slip up and say something silly, own it, make a joke, laugh with the crowd, and move back to your presentation/discussion. The more awkward you feel, the more awkward the audience will feel because they won’t know how to take it. If you take the lead in being comfortable with joking about yourself and your messups, they’ll relate more and feel genuinely interested in hearing you continue.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Aww, I didn’t see this thread till now but congrats! Good for you for tackling a challenge!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

@smiles731:  Good to know it went well.

I have a 20 minutes presentation to give at college today.  Really nervous but this thread has given me some really useful pointers.

Thanks bees.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Breath! Breath is so underrated in its importance in our moods, our anxiety, and even our physical relaxation. 

Find a quiet space and breathe deeply into your entire lungs, to the very bottom of them. Imagine your breath moving throughout your body and cleansing it. Focus on long inhales and exhales and nothing else- clear the mind. Do this for a full minute. It’s incredible how much this can change physical pain, anxiety, nerves, and stress. πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

What event are you speaking at? Is it just an in class presentation? Try to come across as informed yet conversational. Pretend as if you are speaking with a friend. Have you ever practiced public speaking aloud by yourself? Aloud in front of friends and family? Take the necessary baby steps and practice, practice, practice because the truth is, the more you do it, the better and more confident you become. I agree with @indieblue saying “breathe!”…taking one, deep breath before you start speaking will work wonders. 

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