HELP! Feeling taken advantage of by photographer

posted 5 days ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

familyofnerds :  i would simply just not say anything to him about videography. If it’s not in your contract, he has no say. Don’t talk to him about it, and hire who you want. On the day of, he can put on his big boy panties and be a professional. If he brings it up, just be non-commital – “we haven’t decided whether to hire a videographer for the wedding”. If he really pushes, you can tell him “we looked a your friend, but their work wasn’t our style.”

Post # 4
4869 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

familyofnerds :  1.  No.  2.  Don’t know – where are you?  Can you call other videographers to find out?

3.  Don’t let him take advantage of you.  If you were planning to hire a videographer, hire one of your own choosing – but I’d let him know, calmly, before the wedding so if he does pitch a fit, you won’t be out a photographer.  

No one should treat you like that – don’t stand for it.  If it isn’t in your contract, it doesn’t exist.  

Post # 5
279 posts
Helper bee

That’s just straight up BS and not fair to pressure you. However, it’s really important that the photographer has a good relationship with the videographer because that could affect each other’s shots and footage. For that reason, I don’t think you should ignore it. 

I would contact the photographer and explain how the videographer does not match the style that you’re looking for. The price of $4,500 seems to be on the slightly- above average end. Also, you would need clarification for these wordings:

1500 for raw footage – raw footage is literally hundreds of clips with large file sizes from your wedding day. If you do not have a strong computer, you may not even be able to play it and because it’s hundred of clips, it’s not like a straight start to finish video in one file. You would have to open one at a time. Ask if they put all the footage in sequence in one file so you can play it from start to finish, or they just copy and paste the files in a hard drive.

and 4500 for a short video and long video. Ask what the difference is. Ideally, in addition to a short highlight video, you should get a video of the ceremony in full, and the reception footage in full so you have all the key moments. 


Post # 6
2246 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I would assume if it’s not in the contract he really has zero say in the matter. While it is important that the photographer and videographer work well together, if they want to be so committed to one another they need to open up a joint business instead of throwing out their “conditions” after the contract has already been signed. I would simply tell him something along the lines of “We will definitely take your friend into consideration!” And leave it at that. 

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